WHAT THE HECK DO I DO ABOUT MY BRO (plz help me!)?

Question

he won't leave me alone. i am extremely passive. he is the opposite and is extremely spoiled!!! he's ten and he STILL sleeps in my parents room!!! we share a room cause we live in a two room house. my parents dedicated a section of our basement to me. HE WON'T LEAVE!! He just comes down and gets on my computer or turns on the tv and blasts it. now, im sitting upstairs on the family computer and he won't leave me alone!!! he just left the room for a second. he was watchin what i was doing and he wouldn't stop sayin "u shouldn't be looking for new phones, you just got that one today" and i was just looking up how to connect the mp3 player!!! i cant say anything back cause my parents (who play sides) will yell at me and ground me if i do anything back!!!! I CAN'T EVEN GET HIM OUTTA MY AREA and he keeps calling me a r****d!!! and like i said, i can't do anything back! WHAT DO I DO!!! I used to solve this with going to my grandparents but now "im going up there to much" and "she's not my mother". my mom thinks that i hate her and she won't let me go there. she just gets mad and says i need you here when all she does is get mad at me!!!!! i don't have anything to myself and i can't get away from my bro!!!! shouldn't a 14 y/o be able to get away from that?? PLZ HELP ME!!!!! (btw, i paid for my phone myself and i have to let him play with it. IT COST $130!)

Answer 1

its your parents fault!!! they dont dicipline the kid   you should talk to someone other then your grandparents cause your parents dont seem to listen to them...maybe an aunt or uncle or a close family friend. you could try talking to them but it doesnt seem they would listen and you would probably get in trouble if you said what you realy feel

Answer 2

you tell him to quit being a f****** D.i.c.k or you are gonna kick his a.s.s

Answer 3

You need to learn how to be a lot slicker.

Time to play "keep away" from this mooch.

A 10 year old is too young to be hanging out with people who are 4 years older than he is. He is hanging around just to cheese you off. He only wants to use your things because they are yours. My brother was like that.

Use the locking feature on your cell phone and your computer.

You might want to consider getting a locking trunk and putting your computer in that whenever you leave.

Actually, you need to get a replacement lock for that door... one with a keyed lock on it... and lock yourself in or out. Wear the key around your neck, tucked inside your shirt.

Answer 4

Well Cher is right but I don't agree. There could be nothing wrong just because he is sleeping with parents at 10. If he does it every night maybe its wrong. But I sleep with my mom until i was 16 because my dad would work nights alot, and I have a phobia of the dark, and HATE being alone. So I would sleep with her. And my dad would kick me out or push me to her side when she would get up in the morning. I did that till I was 16, which was around the time my boyfriend moved in with us. Now I sleep with him every night. Until  its his week for night shift, and I have my dog in the room with me on my bed. And I have to keep a hand on her or I freak out.  SO That part I do not agree with Cher. BUT Your bro might have ADD/ADHD, and you should act mature and pull your parents to the side and talk to them about how they let him do whatever he wants and how that is unfair and he walks all over them. If that does not work I do not know what to do. Follow him around and do the samethings. and if he tells on you , say no I wanna hang out with him. I wanna show him this game,  I wanna show him stuff on the computer. And just do it like he does only 10 times worse. Maybe he will grow up a little.

Answer 5

You should sit down with him and your parents and have a talk. Tell them that you don't want him around or whatever it is you have to say to them. I hope that you find out what to do soon.

ARE YOU A GIRL OR BOY??

Answer 6

Your second sentence is the key to your dilemma.  He walks all over people because they let him.

If your parent's aren't willing to become less passive, you're kind of screwed.  But you only have 4 more years, then you can go away to college.

Answer 7

Wow.  This is a lot to absorb!  First of all, I think your brother is an attention getter.  It sounds like he isn't happy unless he gets attention and will do anything he can to get attention.  Sounds like he also has to be involved in way too much and feels left out unless he has his own say on what's going on.  I personally would just try to ignore him and see if he takes the hint or just gets bored that you aren't responding to him.  

I think you should sit down with your parents when your brother isn't around and talk to them.  Tell them how you feel and make sure you point out instances when your brother is just being too much.  Explain to them he doesn't respect your property, your feelings, or your space.  

Explain to your mom that you don't hate her and that you are being driven crazy by your brothers actions and you just want your own personal space and your belongings respected.  Tell your  mom you want to go out because you can't handle being in the house because of how your brother is.  Ask your parents to watch what your brother does when he is making you nuts.  You could always have another family member or a friend of the family sit in with you as a neutral party to offer some more insight to the situation.  

I don't know if this helps much but it's what I would do.

****btw How is he in school?  Does he cause problems in school?  I only ask because if he has a difficult time in school maybe you can talk to a guidance counselor there about his behavior and see what they say....because if he is a problem at school with people a guidance counselor could talk to your parents and basically let your parents know  that maybe it's not you that is the problem.  Just an idea.

Answer 8

thats the way youner bros are,he wants to do everythin to u and with u,ur his favourite pal,even though u may not think it, when he comes around just act borin,say ur doin nothin,and act real relaxed,thatll bore him and h**l leave u alone,maybe he aso wants u to do stuff with him?go ply some footie with him?

Answer 9

I am in the Medical Field there is something seriously wrong with him still sleeping with mom and dad at 10 years old.. My suggestion is that your parents need to take him to a Psychiatrist and have him evaluated for ADD/ADHD and other Psychological Disorders.. He probably will not leave you alone. until they get him some help..He has control of the house and everyone in it and it needs to stop.

I really feel for you .. Talk to your parents or a counselor