WHAT should i DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! guys mainly(i want an opinion) but girls can come too.?

Question

I know I asked this, but I want more answers, from a variety of people. There is a guy i like...and he knows it but only likes me as a friend. And we've been through a lot(arguing, hurting each other). And i think i am obsessed with him(refer to my previous question( i constantly im him,have pics of him, ask what he's doing, have him on my top(above closer friends, listen to songs that remind me of him, constantly think of him..etc,etc). I know friendship is a two-way thing, but it seems like I'M the only one doing anything, (i initiate the convos, give him gifts(that was only once, and it was handmade), suggest that we hangout). How would he feel towards a girl like me(btw i'm in highschool and am shy)? Is it becuase of my obsession that HE doesn't do much for me?..i just wanna be best friends with him now that i now he doesn't like me(he's too amazing to erase from my life).

What differentiates between best friend and friend, and being a friend to just having pity for someone? And is he worth keeping as a friend?..and would it be different if i became different(like less obsessive and clingy)???

PPl who asked this say that i'm not his friend, but lemme tell ya that i am on his top, he tells me secrets, we still talk after arguments..and we hangout when possible. And he comforts me whenver he can, nd says nice things to me.etc..

Answer 1

um im in high school 2...if you become less clingy i think he will think you dont care...be clingy but only to a certain extent...if that makes sense...if he comforts you and makes you feel good...i think hes worth keeping?

Answer 2

Hi,  Your last paragraph tells me that you are right and you two are friends.  But, if you do not stop with your obsessive, jealous behavior you will soon send this friend packing.

It sounds to me like you want to be more than friends.  A funny thing about friends and lovers...a friend can become a lover but once a lover, if the relationship sours, it is extremely, extremely, difficult for a lover to ever go back to just being friends. Maybe he knows this already and is not willing to risk his friendship with you.  

Answer 3

Wow! several thoughts here. One it is referred to as unrequited love. That means all the emotional feeling, the giving, and time comes from 1 party not both. That is not a relationship.

Secondly, You admit to being obssesive, that is a bad thing, you will continue to chase people away and as word gets around about your clingyness, you will eventually be referred to as "The Psycho Girlfriend"

You are better than that. There has to be some cute guys that like you. Forget this guy except as a friend and work on a relationship that might have a future. Obssesivness is a sickness.

Answer 4

Dude obsessive is a bad thing, girls have scared me off like this...

Answer 5

shy? shy?!!! you describe yourself as shy?

omg have you ever heard of playing 'hard to get'?? sheesh you are way to easy. Guys like a challenge. YOu are never ever going to get him by wearing your heart on your sleeve.

I'll say this for the guy tho, he sounds a nice sort of person to still be friends with you knowing that you are obsessed with him

Answer 6

i dont understand,u said he dosnt like u,but he has u on his top and tells u secrets?ignore him for a couple of days,if he contacts u that means he wants to be friends,in that case u should become less clingy.but if he doesnt contact u that means he doesnt want to be friends.then u should just forgrt about him and make new friends,but this time be less clingy from the start.

Answer 7

don't make it so obvious.

you sound like my other ex friend.

all of us dropped her because she got WAYYY TOOO obssesive

over that kid and annoyed the h**l outta us.

maybe you're the same, so chill out.

honestly, i think he feels pity for you.

and yes i do think it is because of your obssesion for

him that he doesnt do much for you.  

Answer 8

ask his other friends what he thinks of you

Answer 9

If you want to be his friend because u can't be more then you should do this. Give him space for a week or two.  It will probably make him miss you and rethink the situation.  And it will let you  let go of wanting a romantic relationship with him (you probably won't let go all the way, but that's ok).  Also you will start to see him differently because you probably look at him as a fantasy person rather than a real person.  After the week off you should pursue a normal friendship with him.  

He might end up wanting you later.  The week not talking much and the friendship after might do it.  Good luck!

Answer 10

give him some space! gah.

Answer 11

WEL BEST FREIND IS A PERSON WERE U CAN TELL AND DO ANYHING WITH A FRIEND IS SOMEONE THAT U JUST TALK TO AND HANG OUT RARELY I DONT THINK YOU EVER MENTIONED THAT YOU ARE FRIENDS OR BEST FRIEND JUST THOUTHGT ABTOUT HAT AND ALSO ID SAY TEL HIM DO YOU WNA TO TMBE FRINEDS OR BESTFRIENDS ID ASK HM OUT

                          SORRY FOR MISSPELLING

Answer 12

leave him. you don't need all that drama

find a new guy

or just don't. you don't need a man in your life to be complete.

Answer 13

woah, it sure does seem like you have an obsession.

what you should do is gradually stop initiating everything.

i know it will be hard, but in the end it will be worth it.

if you stop calling & texting him he would start to notice.

& if he values your friendship he will make the initiative.

he may not do it now because he knows you will.

no matter what you decide to do i definitely think you should back off a bit.

just think if the tables were turned.

if someone was constantly IM'ing you, calling you, wondering where you are, what you are doing...wouldn't it be a bit annoying?

it does sound like he cares about you.

as you did say that he tells you secrets, comforts you, & hangs out with you a lot.

you will be able to tell if it's pity if he doesn't seem to care if you didn't call him anymore.

which hopefully, he would care.

& if he doesn't, you would have already stopped calling him as much which will make it a bit easier to handle.

because you wont have such an urge to call him anymore.

& if he does call & start to wonder, then that means he does care & is willing to make the initiative if you don't!

if that is the case, you shouldn't start making all the initiatives again though.

but no matter what you do, just try & be a bit less obsessive & clingy.

it's not healthy.

best of luck!

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Answer 14

wow ur totally crushing o this guy i mean you are freaking head over heals look at all your questions its about HIM that's weird but anyway um just play hard to get dont get too clingy and i know how it feels trust me just wait like 10 sec before answering his ims that means typing too dont ask what hes doing only do it once a week or gradually grow to that seriously this will help you look like really pretty and stuff maybe if its not too stalkerish ask what he likes in a girl or ask one of your friends or something idk but dont be too clingy unless he likes clingy

Answer 15

sorry but i think you are to obsessed

Answer 16

geeeeez give him some space your a stalker

Answer 17

i read the 1st part and realized you were a stalker and didnt read the rest

Answer 18

there's not too much you can do in a situation like this but some, first you can just stop calling him and stop talking to him, soon, if he is a true friend he'll realise he's taken you for granite and call you asap (it will take a few days) otherwise just don't be constantly calling him(twice a day is enough) or messaging him he'll think you're stalking (like asking what r u doing) make plans to go to the movies or the mall or anywhere and don't give him a short hand notice( guys hate that) and then he'll start to like hanging out with you! Good luck!

Answer 19

i say give the dude some space.

let him come to you, let things work out by themselves.

don't be too obsessed, play hard to get.

guys tends to work hard to get things that are hard to get.

hope it helps.

Answer 20

how old are you, exactly?

I really think you should just go with the flow. Especially if you are as young as you sound (13-15?)

Answer 21

well i am sorta in the same situation minus im a guy and really like this girl but the only thing stopping us i think is distance and way to much of it but well i know its hard but just stop talking to him for a bit and see if he texts you or makes and attempt to hang out.. when girls are obsessed with guys some dont like them.. some guys like girls who play hard to get.. others dont .. some do but at a certain point get tired of their c**p.. i personally like a girl who plays hard to get and is shy.. just be yourself be who you are like it.. you are who you are and meet  who you meet for a reason.. everything happens for a reason.. lifes to short so live it up.. be young think smart stay true and follow your heart

Answer 22

show him a little space

Answer 23

well im a guy and i was in a position just like you recently. unlike you, my girl just kind of stopped talking to me. she's nice, truly a good person but i came across as way to clingy and as a result i don't think we can be friends anymore. it kind of makes me sad but i had to move on just to get her out of my mind. to tell the truth, i feel a lot better.

you seem to be having more luck so i guess it's ok if he's cool with you and enjoys talking with you. just don't be too obvious to him in your "obsession."

you seem like a nice girl so i'm sure you'll do well. maintain a friendship with him and be PATIENT. no matter what just stay calm even if you think he's seeing somebody else. if you're a good friend to him you'd be surprised how things can turn in your favor in the long run.

good luck!

Answer 24

just b urself its not worth it 2 b sum1 ur not. i mean seriously he's gona b cool with u like i am with lota girls and he'll b ur frend but seriously (i would know) it aint gona impress the guy 2 frikn change ur whole self. u could try a few new things but DON'T LET IT GO 2 FAR!!

Answer 25

just take it slow,

a lot of guys are like that.

i think he is worth keeping as a friend, but only you know that. dont freak him out by being obsessive, keep that to yourself, thats what i do. dont let him know how much you like him, if he only wants to be friends. maybe one day he'll want to be more.

:)