WHY DO I WASTE MY TIME?

Question

I'M A SINGLE MOTHER OF 2 CHILDREN. (BY CHOICE) I MET A GUY WE BEGAN 2 CHILL. I LIKE 2 B WITH HIM. BUT THE TWIST IS THIS. I WOULD NEVER MAKE HIM MY MAN. AND I HAVE TOLD HIM THIS. HE WANTS MORE AND I DON'T. I'M CONTENT WITH US JUST BEING "FRIENDS". BUT I DO WANT A MAN I WANT 2 B WITH. SO WHY AM I KICKING IT WITH THIS GUY? CAN ANY1 HELP ME OUT. IT SOUNDS LIKE I HAVE SOME PROBLEMS.

Answer 1

why can't he be your man?

maybe you are more comfortable being just friends with him

Answer 2

I dont think there's anything wrong with you.  I think you are just being independent, and there is absolutley nothin wrong with that.  And at the same time it sounds like you wanna have your cake and eat it too.

So i ask, is this the only guy you chill with or do you see more people.

Do you think he could be a rebound if nothing better comes along.  

Answer 3

It sounds like you may be a little afraid,possibly because of past relationship experiences.It's normal to be confused about your feelings,take sometime and figure out what you're looking for.Make 2 lists, one that has reasons for keeping things as they are in friendship ,and one for reasons to allow the relationship to grow.You have to find out what bothers you about having a committed relationship and ways to fix the problem.Consider getting some good self help and relationship books,i hope this helps.I wish you much happiness and peace,good luck!!!