WHY DO MY PARENTS DO THIS????!!!?

Question

Well if I want to o out with my friends say shopping for example, my parents won't let me go unless there is an adult around to supervise us at all times.

They do let me go out to the cinema with my friends, but this time I told them that a couple (only 3) of my guy friends would be coming along to. (there would have been 7 girls and only 3 guys)

they still said no and that I was not allowed to go.

I also can't go to sleepovers.

How can I get my parents to loosen up??? please help if you have any tips to get around them letting me go to the cinema too, 'cos I organized everything and I'd feel really c*** if everyone got to go and I couldn't just because my parents don't like the fact there might b some guys there...

Answer 1

Hello,

Every family face such things in one way or other.

All parents love their kids.So they are very protective and that is natural.

If you had been reading newspaper you will understand why parents behave like this.

One way is to convince your parents by introducing your friends and their family members,this will create a bond and trust.

You can organise a BBQ with your family and invite your friends but get permission from your parents.

Always let them know where are you going with whom and a contact number and what time will you be back home.

This will take time but will work, so don't be sad for not letting you go on your own for now.

Be happy your parents love you.

Answer 2

Be happy that they have go out with your friends

Answer 3

well there's probably two reasons. Either you somehow violated their trust in the past, possibly without knowing it, or they're overprotective. It might be because they have either heard stories of kidnap or rape around your area. Confront them and ask them why you can't go. ONLY say the words "but all my friends are going" as a last resort because parents that might annoy them. Ask them exactly why they can't let you go anywhere without supervision.  

Answer 4

you dont say how old you are or if you live in a big city or small town. I hated my paernts when they were too protective. You also dont mention wether you have been in trouble before for not following the rules your parents set. If you have not given them a reason to not trust u, then I would set small goals like a shorter get togethr at your huse so your parents can meet your friends and gain thier trust slowly so tht the bigger plans you make wont seem so scary to them and you will eventually have more freedom. Remind them that they may not care for some of your frinds but they know you and need to trust your judgement.

Answer 5

i take it you very young! (you never mentioned your age!)

your parents are over protective! to my guess you an only child or the oldest!

if thats the case, you are their first one to go through this whole boyfriend thing! they scared for you! they dont want to lose you at a young age! and they dont want you to do something stupid!

your parents love you and they cant stand the thought of you coming home drunk or pregnant!!

parents get over protective with their first born! (or the first party animal!)

they will keep thinking the worse!

my advise would be to sit them down and explain to them that you will not get out of hand and that its an honest evening out with the girls!

have a night with the girls at your place so your parents can meet them! when the night is over or the following day, approch your parnts and ask what they thought of your friends and listen to what they have to say!

they will appreciate this gesture!

EXTRA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

then speak too your parents and find out why they are like that! speak to them!! be open with them and your life! share your feelings, inform them of EVERYTHING happening in your life!!

but mostly find out why your parents wont let you go out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Be happy that they are letting you go out with your friends. They could keep you away from all your friends if they wanted to.

Answer 7

You should have made sure the guys being there wouldnt be an issue before inviting them. I always met my daughter's friends before she went out with them.

I like the idea of you having a get together at your house so your parents can get to know your friends. It does help.