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After four years of dating my girl and I have broken up... She tells me that she doesnt love me and also she cant see herself with me, We have two kids together. At 25 years old I will think that she will realize that there is a big difference beteen friends and family. She comes around to me wheneva she needs help with anything, which I dont mind doing because I keep thinking and hoping that one day everything will work out, but it is taking longer than I thought it would. Her family dont agree with the break up but she chose her friend ova family, Now its this a phase that some women go thru or what can it be....I am not the perfect guy out there but from her previous relationship she tell me herself that I am the best that she eva had

Answer 1

give it time... hopefully she'll come around  

Answer 2

Sounds like she is using you for her convenience. It also sounds like she still has some growing up to do. I never went thru a phase like that at 25 and neither did any of my friends. I know you still lover her, but it is time to move on. Just because you have children together does not mean you and her belong together. Find someone better or just take a break from dating. Don't beat yourself up because she wants to be free. Stop helping her out! If you don't, you will always be the safety net. Make her do it herself since she is so independent now. Of course if your children need something, that is a different story. Don't let her take advantage of you.