WHY IS MY SISTER BEING LIKE THIS?!

Question

[Sorry for how long this is] ..Hi, im just wondering wa it sounds like to u why she's like she is.. im 18 live at home & so does she with her baby who's 1 & half.. wen i was at school i met this boy a few years ago, since last year iv been going out with him but hid it from everyone cuz i was scared wa my sister would say.. however wen she found out she made me feel really down & was winding me up going 'errr kelly's had s*x' at 17? WOW! since shes found out all she does is ***** about him & say i can do better..its not as if he hits me or anything tho he's really nice, its like she cant get it into her head that were together..like we'll be sat there & she'll bring up s*x & ask us questions & just out the blue go 'i know wa u 2 will be up to wen were away on hol'. She's forever putting me down also.. like for example i was going to have my hair cut & shes going to me 'why u having ur hair cut it'll be too short' she's forever saying horrible things to me,bitching & aint got one nice thing to say about me! she said before that im jealous cuz shes got a b/f & i havent wen i actually did but was hiding it. She makes my life h**l & im seriously thinking of staying up my dads til she finds a house.. even tho shes finding a house to move but she said that could take til next year. My mum said to her why not go into a hostel she'll get a house quicker but she dont want to cuz she think shes too good for that. She's forever on my mums back,txting her, ringing her.. shes got her own family now but she dont take her kid anywhere on her own or shes stuck in. ..My mum thinks its jealousy cuz im skinny/got my own money/ can do wa i want cuz i aint got a baby & got a job.After every argument she NEVER says sorry, she'll just act like nothings happend, but i dont do that all i do is think about wa shes called me or wa eva & it hurts, i sometimes cry at night because she makes me so down. She once made me want to kill myself on my 17th birthday aswell. I know i should love her for the big sister that she is but iv began to hate her because of the way she is! Shes really controlling..she tells her b/f wa to spend his money on & wa he cant & can buy wen its his money which he works hard for.

Answer 1

she's only wired up that you had s*x.  personally, i think it should be saved until you're ready.  but i can't really say anything to you because it's not my place to judge.  she just cares about you but if you think that she's taking it too far, sit down with her and have a mature adult talk with her and make a point not so heavily but not so lightly either.

Answer 2

It kind of sounds like she made some bad choices and is afraid you will repeat them. Or she is jealous like your mother said. It could be that you are a good person with her head on straight and it irritates her that you are living the life she has envisioned for herself but because of the decisions she has made in the past she is unable to do so. Some times it is hard for older siblings to see their younger ones doing more with their lives then they are.  

Answer 3

wow lol that was long talk to her tell her that u dont like the way she treats you maybe she is jelouse of you she has the baby and carnt go out so she sees u going out and about but u both need to sit down and talk why should you move out your own home too suite her needs talk with her and stand up for your rights with her

Answer 4

hmm. she is trying to protect you from getting nocked up and being a mother at a yung age your sister is going through a hard time haveing a baby and liveing with your parents beacuse her sorry *** bf cant get a place for them to seattle down in ,or your sister is TOFACE  

Answer 5

I think shes finding it hard looking after the baby, you havent said whether she has always been this way or not. If she hasnt always been like this, then its jealousy+ shes finding things hard atm, if she's always been like this then shes basically a b****