WHY do I get so mad?!?!?!?

Question

Ok, my brother is a year older than me and autistic. And I'm a nice, polite, thoughful person to my friends and family...except my brother. I don't know why but everything about him sets me off to the point I want to strangle him. I HATE how mean I am to him, but I don't know how to stop! I try treating him nice, but in my mind he is SO annoying! And everyone in my family talks about how nice he is and polite and it makes me feel like I'm a cruel witch, therefore making me dislike him MORE because I feel like my parents like him better since he's "always" nice. But it annoys me like, he'll eat like a slob, or he tattles on me for the STUPIDEST reasons. But overall, he's nice. How do I like him more?

Answer 1

Well first of all realize the underlining reason why he annoys you. I know some of the reasons are because you feel he is overrated. You feal he is overrated but he really not that great. Society and your family has probably tought you that you feeling that way is bad. This causes you to feal guilty. The guilt is not a fun fealing to live with, it gets old quick...you become sick of it very quickly and on top of that, you realize that this fealing is caused by him. You now become angry. Your angry at him but you suddenly realize that being angry at him is bad because according to your family, you supposed to like him like everyone else. You now feal guilty again. The cycle repeats now. The ongoing cycle overall makes you very mad. Your fed up with this and you posted this question. That is the reason. For this to end, the cycle needs to be broken. It can be discontinued and broken.

You can do this by understanding why you are upset and that it's okay to feel this way. It is normal for people to not like slobs. It's human nature because we have bean raised by society to think that. So it is natural to be annoyed by his behavior. Your a normal human being that doesn't like things that normal people don't like.  Now that you have realized your not crazy for being upset, now you can try to look at your families perspective on him. I'm sure there are a lot of great things about him. It's tough having Aspburgers. Very tough sometimes. Your family knows that there are a lot of things about him that arn't what most people would call great. But he needs the praise and positive reinforcement because I think right now that is one of the few ways in which will help him go farward in life. I sure your family is proud of you too. I may appear that they are bieing unfair but I know they aren't trying to do that.  

Answer 2

hhm well i have a friend??..that gets me MAD everytime she speaks or does sumthin, idk its like everything she do or say is really annoying and it pisses me off. but yet, i can keep my calmness and i just let it go, only one time i really got PISSED at her and u know sed really bad things 2 her.

well if ur bro eats like a slob, just sit not-near him in the kitchen table, and just ignore it no matter how much it discusts u..and tell him not snitch on him, even tho he's autistic he's smart enough to understand.

JUST PUSH URSELF TO NOT SAY ANY MEAN d**n THING TO HIM.

Answer 3

Get to know him better.

Answer 4

wow thats kind of mean that you wouldnt like your brother. maybe he cant help eating like a slob and being annoying because he is autistic. its really rude to say mean things like that about  person that has special needs. if you dont like him stop complaining about it and stay away from him as much as you can so that your not mean but no matter what you have no reason to be mean to him. think about how he feels. put yourself in his shoes.

Answer 5

Just imagine him being you. When you see him, picture yourself. How would you want someone to treat you? Treat him exactly like you would want to be treated.

Answer 6

everytime you do somthing bad to him, go hurt yourself or punish yourself.

this works 60% of the time.everytime

Answer 7

Its because he wants to spend time with you. You should do something with him that you both like.

Good Luck,

WiTH Love,

Dory<3

Answer 8

It sounds like you sort of regret him, because he needs so much more help then you do, your parents arent trying to pick favorites, take it was a compliment, they're not ignoring you, but they know that you have the capibilites to make it in this world on your own, where as he has slightly less chance than that. When you start to get angry, just remember he really can't help it that he eats like a slob or taddles on you etc. I know it's hard and i can't even imagine, but just remember, it gets worse before it gets better. And when he starts to make you mad, etc. Just go away from him for a while, and dwell on things that make you happy.

Good luck, things will work themselves out, it'll be fine :)

Answer 9

you get mad because he is your brother. I segust teaching him how to do the things u dispise properly in a nice way