WHat do you do when your best friend has a baby how should i fell???

Question

i have a friend and she just had a baby and i want to have a baby to but anyway how should i fell when i am around her i dont know like i am so use to it just being me and her but now theres a baby and i dont know what to do

Answer 1

Just be yourself. The good thing about her having the baby before you, you will see what its like to be a first time mom. The vomiting,dirty pants, when to take off breast milk, and how knows you may get to share her baby clothes. Just wait your day will come you you will make a great mommy.

Answer 2

Just be happy for her. It might be strange because her attention is on her newborn but you have to appreciate that. When the baby is a little older you can spend some time alone again. For now welcome the baby into the world she/he is apart of your friend.

Answer 3

Just act like you normally would. I can speak from experience and I hate it when my friends that don't have a baby act differently to me just because I do. You definitely need to act like you normally would, she'll appreciate it.

As far as the baby goes, just ask her how he/she is and that's really about it unless you want to hold him or her. As the baby gets older and you go around her more, you'll form a relationship with the baby as well.

Answer 4

wtf?????? its a baby it doesnt talk or anything its just there, until it gets older it doesnt really do anything cept sleep, eat,**** and cry. i dont c what u mean by its not u and her anymore

Answer 5

be happy for her. shes not going to choose you over her baby so suck it up or forget about it. i left behind alot of friends that were like this when i had my baby because... well frankly the drama isnt worth it.

Answer 6

It will be real different with her now.Your friendship will never be the same.You two will grow apart over time.It happens.I dont mean to sound so blunt or rude.Just trying to be honest.I have been in this spot before! You two will get together and she will only want to talk about the baby and you wont have anything in common when it comes to that topic.Be nice,be there for her but its only a matter of time before you two grow apart..Im sorry:( Everyone that will read this will probably think Im rude BUTTT I HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS!

Good luck.

Answer 7

I really don't understand your question.  You sound way too immature to have a baby of your own if you're feeling weird around your friend and her new baby.  Maybe you should give it some time.

Answer 8

It is very hard when you are wanting and trying to have a baby and your friend has one before you, it is normal to feel extreme jealously and to top it off you know how you should behave but feel like you cant just yet do the 'I'm over to moon for you' thing even for a much loved friend/. I would not try and work through those feelings with the new mother though but try and find someone who may understand those intense feelings as well and talk about it with them, but be business as usual with your friend or if you cant make the excuse that you want to give her time with the new baby so as to not bring any negativity near the baby. You will find that over time those negative feelings will diminish quicker then you think as you become of part of your friends new family. Dont feel bad about it just work though it and remember it will happen for you one day too when and where it should at the precisely most perfect moment.

Answer 9

Try to be happy for her and support her. yes, your friendship will change. But I know like the other moms friends change when you have kids and they don't. But I appreciate the mom friends I have made. Friends help you when you need them and are good to have. Hang in there and go meet the baby. And think of the baby as a blessing for her.  

Answer 10

I think I am speaking for a lot of moms out there when I say ....

It totally sucks when your friends act different, stop calling, or stop coming around all together when you have a baby.  They're still your friends.  They still need your friendship. Keep calling, but don't get upset if she cant be on the phone that long.  Ask if she needs anything, keep inviting her out (but, again, don't get upset if she can't go).