WHy wont my husband have s*x?

Question

We have been together for 8 years. And things seem to be so boring now. Same old thing everyday, I try to change things but he just wont do anything different. I honestly can say we have s*x twice a year. I'm 37 and can't stand it anymore. I try to initiate but he just pushes me away. HELP!!!

Answer 1

Not sure what you look like, but maybe exercise.  You are 37, he is probably the same, or older - especially if you do not exercise.  Energy levels go down as you get older.  If he is 37 testosterone levels are also dropping.  His s*x drive is not as much as it was when he was 18.

VIAGRA to the rescue - you could just order some on-line.  There is another pill that works also - do your research.

However - naturally - exercise is the easiest way to raise testosterone levels.  Not to mention  - if you go to the Gym  - that will give him a little extra incentive.  It will also allow you and him some alone time  - that is if you have kids.

Then again other strains maybe taking its' tolls - financial, other problems may be occupying his mind.  Just take him away from his environment - go to a hotel for the weekend.

Answer 2

It is weird.  Usually it's the woman who doesn't want it.  Maybe he has low testosterone levels?  Has he gone to the doctor to have levels tested?

How is the rest of your marriage?

Answer 3

You may want to investigate and see if he has someone else.

Answer 4

Have you considered that he has serious erectile disfunction issues and is very self-conscious and ashamed about it? It is possible that he has somebody else on the side, but it is also possible that he feels inadequate or is physically/biologically unable to measure up due to some stress related erectile issues.

Answer 5

He is either cheating or not attracted to you anymore.

Answer 6

Try helping him around the yard or maybe out in the garage, try talking to him. He might just be one of those guys who doesn't need s*x a lot, you married him for "better or for worse". You shouldn't try to force him into doing something he doesn't want to. If twice a year is enough for him, then it should be for you too, DEAL with it you JERKETTE!!! PERVERTESS

Answer 7

There could be two things ,  either he is no longer sexually attracted to you or he may have someone else . Either way you should talk to him about it , because s*x is very important in a marriage.  

Answer 8

Marriage is an ancient Aramaic word meaning lack of s*x.

It is called biology.  He focused on something, he got it and part of his brain has shut down.  It really does happen.  Hundreds of MRI's and PET's later they have proven it.  It gives you an answer but no suggestions.  No one has figured it out for the last 1000 years.  They did fine prior to that, but that is another story.

Answer 9

OK here's what you do. You have to spice your s*x life.

I would reserve a hotel room. Then ask your husband to meet you in a bar and pretend the two of you don't know each other. Start hitting on him and so on ( I think you get the picture ) and then go back to your hotel for some serious intimicy. After that, you will need to be more creative so dress up, watch p**n to get ideas. NO shame, I did it and I learn alot.

Good luck

Answer 10

i have this same issue with my man i always have to initiate it its annoying i just think i have a higher s*x drive then him. maybe thats the same in your case did you have s*x alot before?

Answer 11

Try a double date.  

Answer 12

Well I think that there could be a number of reasons for this. Without knowing the man personally I wouldn't even be able to hazard a guess as to what is going on. It could be health related there are some conditions that create a lack of sexual desire or impotence. The problem could also be psychological/emotional. My sugesstion to you is to pay more attention to see if anything else has changed since he was having s*x with you frequently. If other things have changed it may in fact give you a clue as to what is going on with him. Also talk to him let him know that you are there for him. It is common for men to feel as though they need to shoulder their emotional burdens alone, rather than ask for help even when they need it.    

Answer 13

he's either g*y or your unattractive to him. Ask him about both. Then if he says neither then tell him you going to get it somewhere else!  BS to be shut off like that for no reason! So unfair  

Answer 14

WOW and I thought my once every 10 days was bad!  I m********e to take care of my high drive BUT twice a year is a BIG issue! ! !

What is going on?  Was it this way for all 8 years?  Is there medical issues?  

Answer 15

2 words, Marriage Counselling!

Answer 16

Sally there may very well be something wrong with your man either physically or emotionally.  He would be wise to go and visit his family doctor to discuss this problem as it is not normal to want to lead such a boring life sexually.  If there is nothing wrong there then perhaps the two of you would benefit from either a sexual or relationship counselor.  Best of luck.