WHy would an old manager give a great reference and then tell your current manager you are looking for a job?

Question

I was approached by my boss who was told I was looking for another job. What now? ?

I was approached by my general manager yesterday who told me she knows I am interviewing for another job.

Fact is, I was called from a recruiter who presented a great opportunity for me and so I decided to pursue an interview with this larger provider.

I was offered a job that pays more than $10k a year than what I am currently making. I verbally told the new job I would accept it, but they needed to check some references from me so I presented them with 3 previous managers to contact. I also asked the potential job NOT to contact my current employer which they said they WOULD NOT.

Yesterday, I was approached by my current boss who told me she is well aware that I am actively interviewing and she had NO idea I was unhappy in my current job. I was NOT ready to hand in a resignation and I denied interviewing as i was put on the spot........ she told me she was told by a reliable source that I am interviewing and that she knows I am doing do. I told her I am always being approached by recruiters and I have listend to some of their offers, but for the most nothing has caused me to wish to leave at this time.

Truth be told I am still in the hiring process at the potential employer. I have not cleared the entire hiring process therefor not ready to resign at my current position.

WHO told my boss I am wanting to quit? She knows it's about the offer of $$ and my low salary where I am at. ( So it's someone who really knows the facts.. )

I emailed all three of my used references to ask them if they spoke ti my current manager and told them what she told me on the spot. I also made it clear that I was not 100% ready to resign due to waiting Human Resources clearance... which I did recieve later that day... I wanted them to know someone made it very awkward and on the spor for me. .....

What do I do now? Hand in my resignation on Monday? Do I telll them it's purely financial in the letter?

6 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.

Answer 1

someone violated a confidence - did anyone confess to being th person who told? - just put in your 2 week notice and state you received an offer that was too good to pass up . you have enjoyed working there and have learned a lot, but it's time to move on with your career progression - professional and to the point - say no more in the letter - see if new place will let you start early if old place is so upset you are leaving, they tell you to clean out your desk on Monday - and they might.

Answer 2

I would not put it in writing.  A letter of resignation should ALWAYS be pleasant, and help keep that bridge open should you need to cross it again.  

I would directly approach your GM, an express that you were not unhappy at all, and that the position you are taking was an unsolicited offer, and that after weighing the pros, and cons you decided that it was best for your long term goals, personal, professional, and financial for you to take the new position.

Just be honest, pleasant, and keep that bridge up (burning a bridge is really the worst thing you could do).

Answer 3

You said it in your last line; the all mighty dollar!  You don't owe your current employer anything, and people leaving jobs for more money happens all the time.  

For the time being, you just got to lay low at your current position.  If someone asks you if you are thinking of jumping ship, I would just say "Ya, I've had offers, but the people here are so great that I think I might just stay put."  That just adds extra padding for when you do leave, and people won't think you are leaving for personal reasons.

I'm no pro by any means, but when I left my job I just kept ranting and raving about how hard it is to "leave all the great people."

Answer 4

A resignation letter should leave a good impression of you. It should thank the company for the opportunities you’ve been given & let them know when you’ll be leaving. Large companies will conduct an exit interview, and at that time you can answer the question of why you’re leaving.  The key is to be diplomatic throughout the process because burning bridges is never a good career move.

It’s always a risk to let it slip to anyone in your office that you’re job hunting. You can’t be sure such info won’t be shared.

Answer 5

emails, IM's, or phone calls done from work?

co-workers?