WOMEN, Would you Rather Be Alone or Dateless?

Question

or date any of these men?

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1. I was set up by a so-called friend with a man that had severe mental illness was in jail for domestic violence towards wife and kids and has no job!

The lady that set me up with him is no longer my friend.

2. Another woman set me up with a man that is homosexual living with another man for the last 12 years. He drinks, gambles, and she knew all about him!!! Needless to say, she is not a friend either.

3. Another man that tried to set me up with his buddy who frequeted bars and women as fast as a skunk almost raped me. Again this man is not my friend.

4. Another man that tried to pursue me was fully on drugs and tripping that he couldn't carry a conversation with me. Again, I said to myself, I'd rather be alone than with any of these men listed above. Who'd want a drugged out guy who couldn't tell night from day?

5. Lothario, wanted marriage, found out he created Pornos

as a business.

Answer 1

2.  might be fun for a "date" or two...he might be interesting to hang with.

As to the rest...I'll just stay home thanks.

Answer 2

Better to be dateless and alone than go out with any of those jokers.  There is NOTHING wrong with being single...but EVERYTHING wrong with being so desperate that someone would actually chose to date people who are not good for them.

No, just hold on.  The RIGHT person is out there and you'll find he is worth the wait.  Yes, there will be people who will tell you that you're being too picky, but don't listen to them.  Misery often loves company.

If you start to feel bad because you don't have a man, just think of those prayer meetings when all too often a "good" moral Christian woman is dating or actually MARRIED to creeps like you described and then is asking for "prayer" for the umpteenth re: their situation...

when what they should've been doing was not 'missionary dating' in the first place! Not to be mean, but the Scriptures teach not to be unequally yoked for a good reason...and now some of those women are learning the painful lesson of what happens when they follow their own "desires" or fall to peer pressure or get desperate instead of doing what God's will truly is.

Answer 3

You need to find a better class of men.  And friends.

I am a proponent of volunteering.  You'll get out of the house, get your mind off your troubles, make some new friends, meet some VERY nice people who aren't into themselves, and do something good for your community.  Join Habitat for Humanity and pick up some useful skills.  Join a hiking or biking club.  Maybe you won't meet Mr. Wonderful, but you could very welll meet someone whose brother he is.  Stay open and stop being desperate.  Good luck!!

Edit:  This is a GREAT website:  volunteermatch dot org.

Answer 4

Is this for real? I wouldn't date any of these men. Plus, how did you pick such horrible friends?

Answer 5

You are smart not to go with any of those losers!

Go out and have a good time with ur girlfriends, and meet other men while ur at it.

sounds like u have a good head on ur shoulders and can spot a loser right away. Just be glad ur not with those guys.

Answer 6

Obviously, a sane person would rather remain dateless, but that isn't the only option.

Seriously, you need to find different places to meet guys!

There are plenty of great guys out there, and perhaps you should look for them yourself, rather than all of these freaky set ups!

Doesn't your church have a singles group?

Answer 7

Yes, a night of Solitaire on the computer starts sounding very good in comparison.  Sorry, I'm laughing at these horrible dates.  They are so bad that it's funny, but I know you had to live through it.  LOL  Sorry.

Answer 8

Good lord girl sounds like to find love you are gonna need to go to another state!!! Are there any single men from your church that you would be willing to date?

I wouldn't want to be alone I would let love find me. Be positive, surround yourself with positive people. I feel you though it's hard to find good love theses days. But I found good love after a long struggle. It certainly ain't perfect.

Answer 9

There's no point in dating people you don't like. Be alone, until you find the right person.  If these are the kinds of friends you have, you might want to spend time alone finding things to do yourself..(take up some cool classes or something).

That's why people get into the wrong relationships, because they don't want to be alone. I'm not settling for less, until I know in my heart that this person is right for me.

If it makes you feel better, feel flattered that people are ASKING you out on dates.  That doesn't mean you have to go on a date with them.

Answer 10

Wow, and I thought I had it bad. It's terrible to hear what you've went through. Being alone sounds like a lot more fun than being with any of those men, especially if you go to church and have faith. I would just keep holding out for the right guy. There's got to be a few normal men left, right?

Answer 11

I would agree with this woman.  Yes it would be much better to remain alone than to date anyone as she presented.

And I just turn the tables around.  I certainly have had my fill, being set up with women.  Although all instances were not as horrible, some of them were.  In addition, whoever the person hooks you up with is a reflection of what the other person thinks about YOU.  Why would an otherwise straight, successful woman want to be set up with a drug addict, or rapists, or pornographer, or mental case, or miscreant, or degenerate gambler?

Answer 12

You should wait for the right guy  to love you, all those guys are f-d in the head.