Wait for happiness or put future off?

Question

me and my ex split up about a year ago...he got with one of my friends..recently he came round saying she was not for him and he loved me and the kids and wanted to come home...we had s*x and now im pregnant(which i dont mind)he phones me constantly at really silly times but i wake up because i love him...he phoned me the other night about 3 and said are we still on i said yes and he said i will be there with you in the next few days..stay home...his new g/f knows im pregnant and she even caught him ringing me...he says he needs the right time and opportunity to leave..once he does that we will work..i know it..but how long do i wait..she wants a baby with him and he says hes not sleeping with her they have only been together about 2 months we were a couple 4 years...help do i wait or tell him to leave me and kids alone..any advice appreciated and no silly comments about birth control im a big girl and its my choice to have a family...thanks

Answer 1

I would wait for him as long as it takes. I'm sure he really loves you and the children he just needs to get the courage up to leave this hateful woman. I don't think you will have a chance to meet any other men to take care of you and the children. Most men are selfish and only want a woman without any children because they want to marry them and don't want the confusion of other fathers popping in and out.

Answer 2

Be aware that he left you once for someone else, and may try it again. It would have to be up to you to take him back...or not...knowing this.

Answer 3

You ask, "Do I wait?" The answer to that is easy: yes, you wait --for your baby--because that's what one does when one is pregnant.

You ask, "Do I tell him to leave me and kids alone?" Well, you are free to ask him to leave YOU alone, but why would you want to ask him to leave the kids alone? They are his kids, too, and for sure (unless he is unkind) they would prefer that he NOT leave them alone. And he and the baby don't even know each other yet!

I strongly agree that the choice to have a family, or not to do so, should be made by the woman involved. But I'd feel a little better for you if you had a pregnancy to which your reaction was "I'm delighted" rather than "I dont mind".  If you care for this man, and believe he can be a good father to his children and a faithful husband to you, why not consider marrying him? Marriage isn't a perfect institution, and it isn't for everyone, but it might be a good context for the two of you to build a future for your children.

Answer 4

sorry girl....he's not coming home.... he's just stringing you along.....He just wants to get his player sydrome out on her and come home to you.... why didnt you use a condom??

Leave him, he will not have a family with you.....he will cheat again and again...

Good luck, God bless

Answer 5

I would not be waiting at all. He is not telling her because he does not plan on leaving. If he wanted to come home to his wife and kids what is stopping him? He is sleeping with her too I would bet.