Walking me down the aisle?

Question

So I have two dads and I am trying to decide who will walk me down the aisle. My bio father let my Dad adopt me when I was around three or four and he has always been my "Dad." I'm thinking of having my bio father walk me about a quarter of the way and then giving me to my dad so that he gives me away at the alter. Is it okay that I symbolize that my bio dad gave me to my dad? Is this okay as far as wedding etiquette?

Answer 1

I think it's perfectly acceptable not to mention touching!  

Answer 2

I recently attended a wedding where the brides two brother-in-laws walked her down the aisle - one on each arm.  I thought it was a really sweet idea (the bride's father had passed away).  Maybe you could try that?  I just think that your biological father might feel left out because he had to give you up part way down the aisle.  

Answer 3

First off, this is your wedding and you shouldn't worry about wedding etiquette.  This is your day and you do what you want.  As for answering your question, your idea is good.  You are being fair and plus since your "Dad" has been your dad since adopting you, give him the honor of giving you away. I love the symbolisism in the whole bio dad giving you to your "Dad".  Congrats hun and hoped this helped :)

Answer 4

It's your day, and you get to choose how you do it.  

However, would your "bio" Dad maybe feel slighted that he only gets to walk you down a quarter of the way?  

Have you thought about having the both of them walk you down the aisle?  That would symbolize that 1) you wouldn't be here if it weren't for your "bio" Dad, and 2) your Dad, the man who raised you, was there for you.  You could then have your "bio" Dad step away as your Dad gives you away at the alter.

Whatever you choose remember that it's your day, and there really isn't anyone who can tell you it's right or wrong as far as etiquette goes.

Congratulations, and God bless!

Answer 5

You have two great dads and your mom raised a wonderful daughter. It takes a real man to realize that circumstances in life require giving up legal claim to a child and it also takes a real man to raise that child and also allow the bio dad to be in her life. I hope you realize what a fortunate, loved girl you are!! Your idea sounds perfect but, I agree with the others, HALf way would be far more sensitive. The actual years of growing up shouldn't be evaluated. He did provide you with LIFE. You could also consider that, when the pastor asks "who gives her to be wed", that your adopted dad says "Her family does." which also is all-encompassing. Congratulations. I hope your day is perfect.

Answer 6

I think that is a wonderful idea!  You might make everyone in attendance cry with that, but its a beautiful idea.  I think its perfect wedding etiquette because that's how it happened for your family.  

Answer 7

great!!!! u also mIght wanna thInk of both of them walkIng you down the Isle and a half a way down the Isle your bIo dad gIves you to ur "dad" (as u go wIth 2 at fIst then stop and bIo dad gIves kIss and your "dad" brIng you down   the rest of the way and gIves you away to the lucky man.)

Answer 8

why not have them both walk you all the way down since they both had a lot to do with you being there

Answer 9

That's a fine idea, though I would suggest having your biological father walking you halfway rather than a quarter of the way, then having your adopted dad walk you the other half. That way it's even.

It's also perfectly acceptable for both fathers to walk you all of the way.

When wedding traditions were created, these sorts of problems weren't very common, so they weren't taken into account when the etiquette was established. In other words, you can do this your own way, and it's my opinion that it's very sweet that you would have both of your fathers taking part in your walking down the aisle.

Good luck to you in your marriage and congratulations to your fiance!