Walking off a job...what is this called?

Question

I have a good friend who hates his job. At least 50 times in the past, if he hates a job, or if he feels mistreated or disrespected, he leaves, I mean he just doesn't go back in the next day, or just doesn't come back from lunch. Sometimes after a few days, a week, a few months. No matter how deep in bills he is in, he's like, "I can't work a job that I don't like at least a little bit. I know it’s silly because I have bills to pay, but I can’t seem to shake this", or (the current one) “I don’t like being bored on the job. They won’t sit with me and train me properly, then when I ask questions they treat me like I’m supposed to already have the answers”. What is this called (besides stupidity...lol)? Is there a name for it? It’s not laziness because I believe he wants to work, but he wants to like it at least a little bit. Is it immaturity, you think? What should I tell him?

If you're single with no kids, how do you push yourself to get out of bed in the morning when you DESPISE your job? You look forward to Friday night, and Sunday night you are DREADING work in the morning. I hate my job too, but I'm not doing this. I want to walk out sometimes too, but I can’t!. From an employer standpoint—any employers out there? What do you think of someone who does this?

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Answer 1

Being single with no kids is no excuse for doing what he's doing.

Walking off a job is highly irresponsible, unprofessional, arrogant, and unfair to the employer.

At the very least, two weeks notice is the expectation and the right thing to do. Imagine if you were the employer; you'd be left in the lurch and be understaffed.

Walking off a job, even if it's just a couple of times, will come back and bite him in the butt. Potential employers ask for a complete work history and permission to contact the last employer. If he leaves a job(s) and doesn't put it on his resume, there will be a chronological gap(s) which will be very difficult to explain. Lying on a resume is never a good idea-- companies check on this kind of thing. If the interviewer contacts his last boss, he's in even deeper and gets the reputation of being an irresponsible, immature, arrogant, inconsiderate LIAR.

Hmmm; just the work history I want for the people I hire----NOT!!!!!

Answer 2

I actually have somewhat of a similar thing going on with me.  Although I can't speak entirely for his feelings, from what you are saying, it sounds similar.  With me, it comes from an almost stubborn sense of personal values.  I feel, in my life, that I should not be unhappy.  I feel I deserve to be at a job that appreciates me, and thus, I do not care what I have to sacrifice in order to make this happen.    

However, no matter where you go, there will be something that you don't like about a job.  What's dangerous about this particular stubbornness is just how sensitive your friend is to every job's crappy side.  Whenever you feel self-important (and what I mean by that is when you are confident in your head that you are worth more money or deserve better hours or whatever), it is easy to look at your current situation and be unhappy with it.  If your friend is easily pessimistic about jobs, than what needs to happen is some kind of goal.  What would be an ideal job for him?  

Finding that out wouldn't necessarily get him into a perfect job, but what it will do is make him happy enough to ignore some of the imperfections.  Hopefully, he is in school or is willing to go through a bit of education to get to those kind of goals.  Without a degree or some kind of formal education, he is likely to find a job where he is bored or dissatisfied for some reason.  It's not to say that he is doomed or anything, but it would be a little self-defeating to have such high standards in industries and workplaces that have exactly the opposite.  

On every level of work, whether entry level, white collar, blue collar, etc etc, there are good places to work, and horrible places to work.  The best possible place anyone can work is in an industry or workplace they are interested in at a rooted level.  If he's into videogames, he needs to look at jobs in that industry.  It can either be at the retail level like a manager at GameStop, or at a tech support call center, or a marketing representative at Microsoft.  None of those require very many credentials.  But, some of the higher paying, non-retail, kind of cushy jobs require some schooling.

This is what I've come to realize, as I would walk out on a job in a heartbeat if I felt I was being mistreated.  Partly because I knew I was in school and approaching my dream job, so I knew there was something in the future for me, and therefore, any job other than my goal was temporary.  

In my opinion, I think your friend needs to understand a little more precisely what he wants in a job, and go for it.  Otherwise, it is likely that this cycle will continue, and may even spread to other parts of his life.  Usually, those kinds of feelings of selfimportance don't stop at just a job, but usually in relationships with friends, girlfriends, etc.  To answer your question on what this is called, it's called abandonment.  For some people, it is hard to just up and leave something, but if you have the ability, it's a double-edged sword: It makes sure you aren't stuck in something you aren't happy with, but it can become easy and then become a cycle where jobs become "easy come easy go."  

Good luck to you and your friend.

Answer 3

i advise him to go  for councelling with a good psychologist who suggest the  remidy for the problem.

Answer 4

First of all, it's completely IRRESPONSIBLE!

I dont think there's a person in this world that would prefer work over staying at home if we could. The fact that we have bills to pay is the reason we keep our jobs. I think most people that are employed do not like their current jobs for a list of different reasons.

It doesnt matter if a person is single, with or without children. If he truly wanted to work he would keep his job.

With the economy the way it is right now, it's very hard to find employment and he should consider him self blessed that he had/has a job. There are many, many people out there that would give any thing to have even one of his jobs.

I do believe it's laziness and he should be ashamed of himself.

All of us look forward to Friday and dread that Monday morning. If he were my friend I would tell him the way it is.

Because we have bills or we want personal things, to go places, like to spend money, we work. That's life. Tell him to get over it and grow up.

Answer 5

Sounds like a QUITTER and would not be a good prospect for hiring.

Answer 6

Well, it is pretty immature...especially since he does it so much.  

How does he keep getting jobs anyway with a track record like that.

This guy needs to grow up, figure out what he wants to do and go do it and stick to it.

Answer 7

I agree with Off reason and disagree with most other answerer's who call it lazy or immature..its just a lack of clarity as to what he wants besides a lack of work satisfaction and also a disparity between what he gets and what would suit him best or make him happy..your friend may also consider self employment or business besides deciding what kind of job would make him happy --there are some whose disposition is not suited enough for jobs ..like the person above says his value system might not be matching the kind of jobs he is getting...Its pretty natural and nothing illegal in not wanting to pursue a job that doesn't make you feel satisfied enough..some people are strong willed and more impulsive by nature and its natural for them to do things their own way even though it may seem odd to others

if he doesnt have good qualifications to land job of his choice whie working e can further pursue a suitable educational or professional qualification

Answer 8

This plainly because of lack of acceptance and self defined expectations.

A person takes on job for these basic purposes

1.Establish means to meet financial needs

2.Social status

3.Job satisfaction.

A person not entitled to think about job satisfaction or social status when he cannot meet his financial ends.

Learn from mistakes and lift oneself. No mistakes=No learning

Inferior or superior or complex are imaginary painting of mind. All are humans to begin with then they become what they are by their directionality and work.

Be committed to be happy then happiness else the person is committed to be unhappy.