Want a baby RIGHT NOW?

Question

I am only 20, but I am in a very loving and supportive relationship. We are getting married this coming January. We are both in college, and I have 3 semesters left. I want to have a baby SO BADLY! I know that I SHOULD wait, but I also know that if I got pregnant today we would be so happy and completely able to handle it. Should we go for it or wait? How long?

Answer 1

Wait at least until you are finished with school, that should be your #1 priority and the the main focus of your attention right now since that it will probably come into play when you need that good job to support your bubs.  

Also I will say from experience with friends, wait until after you're 21 for awhile! Enjoy being young and having the freedom to do what you like to do, when you like to. Once a baby comes along you think it will be all good, but you can't just up and go do things you want, or even go out and have drinks when you want.

Wait a little bit, you can't put a baby back!! =] Good luck with your decision!

Answer 2

Wait until after your wedding - you will be glad you did!

Answer 3

wait until you are married and settled for a while.  I got married when I was 8 wks pregnant.  ( wedding was planned before baby happened) and i really wish that we would have had some time to be newlyweds before baby came along.  Though my son is fab and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world our newlywed marriage had definately suffered.  We haven't had a chance to bond as a married couple and we are coming up on our first anniversary.  Definately wait.  Babies are wonderful but it's more work and stress than you can even imagine right now.  Before he came along I always said I knew it would be difficult but I never imagined it would be what it is.  

congrats on the upcoming wedding!

Answer 4

If you are wanting a honest answer you should wait.  I would wait at least until you are married and out of college.  I understand the urge to have children but waiting would be well worth it.  My husband finished his bachelors after having our son and it was not easy or him or me.  While having a child is wonderful it also adds another dimension to your world.  

Answer 5

I would say to finish college first since you have three semesters left. If you get pregnant now you might  just end up quitting school to take care of your baby if you have no help with it. Wait and get your career get a better job and have your baby by the time you're 22 you'll be a mother. Just wait it'll come don't push it too far.

Answer 6

From a moral perspective, you should at least wait until you are married... preferably after you've gotton a chance to get settled (married, jobs... at least him, and a place you can afford to live).

After that, go for it.  But just be warned, baby making isn't as easy as they make it sound like in s*x education classes.  You can't expect it to happen the first time you try.  Assuming you manage to time the baby dance during your fertile time of the month, there is still ONLY a 25% chance of getting pregnant in any given month.  Assuming you don't have any fertility issues (10% of couples do), you can still expect an average of 6 months to get pregnant.

Answer 7

Wait till after you get married.  try right after you get married the honeymoon.  

Answer 8

hi!

i think you should wait. finish your education so you can give all the time and attention to your child....

best regards

Answer 9

i would do what your heart tells you... i know that if he and my husband both agree on it i wouldnt care what anyone told me i would go for it.. i wish my husband would want one but he wants to wait.. i think that you should just do what you feel is best.. i'm also in college but i think that as long as you don't forget about colllege it would be okay to take one semester off and then go back.. mainly all you have to remember is to go back.. like other people are saying you are almost there.. as for as the waiting to get married i don't think it really matters if you both want it go for it..  

Answer 10

I got pregnant when I was 15. I had my first daughter at 16 and i had to leave highschool..i waited till she was 2.5 then put her in daycare and finally finished my studies. i wa a single mother....now 8 years later i have 2 more kids, a set of twins that are 11 months old...with an amazing guy we have been together 3 years..but having a baby is nothing like you thin it will be.i love my children and i wouldn't change anything, but you have to realize it takes a big toal on your relationship and your never really ready to have kids until they are here, and you have to deal with it...i suggest you really wait to be married, finish school...if you can make it through that then take your decision..you dont need to wait like 5 years...you just need to realize how much it really changes things. My ex and I have to share my oldest daughter with custody..as much as i thought i loved him...we still fight over some things for her thats why we are not together! Id wait it out a bt your still ice and young!!!  good luck!  ;)