Want can do about one nieighbour and the council try to push my 78 year old mother out of her council?

Question

house .The work men are saying that the house is not in a clean condition and it needs decorating and my mother cannot cope ,but i believe that moving her and messing her about will do her more harm than good and will cause her more harm than good mother not to good on legs now so does not go out i help her as much as i can .please can someone give advice i feel my mother is being bullied here she does not want her life changing

Answer 1

Have you actually seen documents that say they want to move your mother out of the flat and re-house her?  Several councils in my area are renovating their estates and fixing up kitchens & bathrooms, it wasn't necessary for us to move out but maybe the work they need to do on your mother's place is more extensive and they need to move her out temporarily.  As far as I know they can't place her in a nursing home without her consent and nobody should be able to take control of her money.  

Next time you're at your mothers, read the documentation she's been given and ring the person named on the paperwork to find out what's happening.

If they are trying to move her out against her will, you could also try contacting the Citizen's Advice Bureau for advice.

Social Services provide a range of services for the elderly although it can take time to access them, meals on wheels, a carer to come in for a few hours each week etc so try contacting your local council.  They should also be able to tell you where the local day centres for the elderly are in your area.  

http://www.ageconcern.org.uk/AgeConcern/...

Answer 2

Perhaps your Mum would be better in sheltered accommodation where somebody could keep an eye on her and she wouldn't be lonely. It's not like being put in a nursing home, she would still have her independence. You have to think what is best for your Mum no matter how hard the decision is. Why not have a word with the Housing Officer at the Local Council. If the house is in a bad condition then the Council may make things difficult. Do something before this happens. Good luck.

Answer 3

I agree with you Helen i think your mum is being bullied have you spoken with Social services have the council said yer mam has to go cant she just stay put you are legally obliged to stay have you spoken with a solicitor they cant just expect your mum just to get up and leave unless they have allternative accomadation that SHE is happy with not the Council

Answer 4

Is it too obvious to suggest that you have it cleaned and decorated?

You wouldn't necessarily have to do it yourself - there are generally some local charities/volunteer oraganisations who help with these things....

Answer 5

Here is a site that you can go to and get answers, it is a eldercare message board and there are peopl on it that give good advice.

http://www.websitetoolbox.com/tool/mb/mi...

Answer 6

You need to ask yourself can my mother look after herself safely in her house.

If she does need to go into care visit her regularly.

You are fortunate in one way, it is a rented house. If she had bought it this government would steal the house from your eventual inheritance to pay for the cost of her care, that is unless you live in Scotland where the government's special perks rules apply so that they can feed Westminster with Labour MPs most of whom become cabinet ministers and set the rules for the remainder of the UK.

Answer 7

It is a very distressing situation and you do not say what the council has offered as an alternative for your mum but maybe, just maybe your mother would be better off in alternative accommodation.  You must really think hard about what is really best for your mum's well being