Want to give boyfriend engagement ring while he gives me mine?

Question

My long time boyfriend is going to propose. But see, when he pops the question, I want to do the same. So I'd want to as well give him an engagement ring for him to wear in return. He bought a set. A set that includes a diamond 2-Piece Bridal Set (one engagement, one for wedding) a Men's Two-Tone Gold Diamond Accent Band (for wedding).

So what do I do? Do i use the Men's Two-Tone Gold Diamond Accent Band that is originally for the wedding as an engagement ring or do I buy another ring? The thing is that I want our rings to be similar...to match. Help?

the set: http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=186508&PseudoCat=se-xx-xx-xx.esn_results

Answer 1

Darling, Don't propose. The moment is about you and him. Let him propose to you. Also if he wears a "engagement' ring it will make him look like that your already married. Don't do that. Because you will have alot of explaining to do.. Don't put yourself in that position. Also you may end up wasting money on something that he may not want to wear.

Answer 2

Men don't wear engagement rings.    

Answer 3

I completely understand the want for him to have a memento of your engagement, too.  

Ask him about it.  If he thinks it's something he'd be comfortable with, I say do it.

However, traditionally, an engagement gift for a man is a watch.  Men can only get away with wearing a few pieces of jewelry in my opinion... and what would he do with the engagement ring after he got his wedding band?  I think a watch is a better choice for you.  

As for having rings that are similar.  Don't.  

While the set he picked out is beautiful (both feminine and masculine), those are hard to come by.  Stick with what you have and save it for the wedding.

Answer 4

Hmm... I wouldn't do it on the same day as he does. Maybe take him to a nice dinner or something later and "propose" to him.

My dad has an engagement ring. It's kind of like a big gold nugget, looks cool and classy so it's not just a band. He wears it on his right hand now.  

Answer 5

I would not give him the ring the night he proposes. That is the night he has long since planned for you, so let it play out as he planned. Later you can give him the ring of your choice to wear. It doesn't have to match your set because it's doubtful that he'll do the bridely thing of wearing both after the wedding. Get him something nice that could easily be a right-hand ring or something to pass on to a son you may someday have.

Answer 6

When I was engaged, a few days after he proposed I gave him a plain silver band to wear since we both knew that we were having a long engagement.  He use to tell me that it served as a reminder of how much we loved each other and he liked the idea of wearing a symbol of our engagement.  It really just depends on what both of you want, if you want to give him a ring, then do it!