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Want to know if its wrong to move in with a guy that i dated in the past and 3 years later move in???

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i dated this guy in high school for over 4 years and so in love but towards the end he was really getting hooked bad on drugs and treating me bad like hanging up on me and saying he would pick me then wuldnt then wouldnt call for a few days ect. so we just stopped talking to each other, well i few months after that i met a guy and ending up marring this new guy and had a wonderful little girl, but he got abusive bad and doing other stuff and also cheating so i left him, now 10 months after i left him i ran into ex byfriends sister at a rodeo and she was so excited to see me and evrerything and said the fam would be excited and so would "the ex" ( ill say his name is joe) ;) well i got her number and called and she gave me joes address cause he checked himself into a rehab in vegas. all by himself. so i wrote him and told him how things were after 3 years. i would always think about him too even when i was married and stuff, i still sorta had feelings for him, even after 3 years. so he called and i was shocked and he told me first hand how sorry he was and everything!

and said he had alot of making up to do, so for a couple of months we have been talking here and there whenever he can and i saw him about a week ago and he looked so good and so handsome and sooooo sweet and i just fell in love all over again! he kissed me and we said the i loves you and everything! he is so different now! like how he was when we first dated. well he is getting out in a cuple weeks and got a good job lined up and wants to work, save money and get a place for me and my daughter...

i want to really bad but then i am scared. i live in utah and live about 2-3 hours from him, it would be so hard with our work scheduals to see each other, do you think i should move in and see how things go, i dont know what eles to do. he really wants to make things work and be with me. and get married eventually. i lvoe him and he loves me. i dont know what eles to do i guess.

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  1. Your man has transformed his life and is a good catch. I would stay put for awhile to give him the space to get landed outside of rehab.


  2. NO!!! DO NOT MOVE IN WITH HIM!!!!

    Ok, now that I have that off of my chest, let's step back and look at this a little more carefully...

    This is a guy who was wonderful at one point, then got mixed up on drugs and treated you really badly.  You left him and in the meantime, got involved with a loser and had a baby.  Now Guy #1 has come to his senses and cleaned up and wants you back.  Here's the problem... first, you dont' have a good track record in the guy-picking department... and second... you have a baby to think about now- you can't just be jumping into a new living situation without knowing all the facts.

    It's possible that this guy has totally changed and that things will be great between the two of you, but he hasn't been out long enough for you to know for sure.  Slow down, sweetie.  Take your time.  If this is right, it will be better in time, but if it's wrong, you're putting yourself and your baby in REAL danger.  Be careful!!!  

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