Want to talk to my girlfriend about moving on physically...but not really make her uncomfortable...how?

Question

I know she'll do anything. BUT she loves me and i love her very much also, and seems to be taking things SO much slower and easier than anyone else, don't get me wrong there's nothing wrong with that. I talked to her earlier about doing other things (not s*x, but foreplay between us at least a little) and she said just to ask her and she'd tell me yes or no...and I don't want to go around asking like a perv. or making her uncomfortable..i want her happy, but i think moving on would make us both satisfied in many ways..I just want to know how to bring this up, talk to her, and let her know that i want her to make the first move, so i know she wants to and is comfortable...i don't want to sound intrusive or anything, just confused a little as you could guess. =\

i just don't want her to be waiting for me to make a move, and then me not doing so because i want her to....that would be bad...

Answer 1

ask her if shes ready. be classy, not pushy. respect her.

Answer 2

wow, lets see um just be like babe, i want to talk to you about taking it to the next level on a serious note. I dont want s*x, just everything else. what do you think about that?

Answer 3

say you want to take the relationship a little further nicley.

she lucky to have somone like you who gos aabout it in such a respectfull way

Answer 4

ok so ask her

when i say something

i expect my freind

to follow directions

so just ask her

and the reason she is going slower than usual is because she likes you more then the others and dosent want to ruien anything by going to fast

cause once she had s*x with the guy he left(or went as far as she was going to go

so be patient

and just ask her

Answer 5

spread her legs and touch her v****a.

Answer 6

Show her this post:) haha just kidding.

My boyfriend felt the same way after we had been together over a year. I had told him that I wasn't ready to have a sexual relationship with someone and he waited a long time to even try.

Honestly the way he approached the situation was great. He STARTED to make a move, kissed me and asked me if it was alright. It might just be me, but I found it to be respectful that he asked me before going any further.

I will stress that if he would've just kept trying without asking me if it was alright, I wouldn't have found it respectful at all and probably would've pushed him away.

Also, some girls won't tell you "no" so be careful if you don't ask her if it's alright. I'm not sure what her views are obviously, you should know what they are before pursuing anything.

Answer 7

i'm a woman. i can relate with how you feel. i was so inexperienced when my bf was making out with me, foreplay, cuddling, fondling, etc.

i was very uncomfy at first. i wasn't touched by anyone on my intimate areas.

true, my bf let me touch his down there first for a long time. Since i already touched his intimate part first, it already eased my shame...

when things got too hot already, i just told him i was not ready for an intercourse yet. he respected that. so after that, what he usually does is all fore play. still wonderful.

Answer 8

I know exactly what you mean, so ask her what the absolute farthest she would go with you is and then agree with her that anything less then that is acceptable.

Answer 9

I think you need a girl's point of view on this one. The way, I see it is that it all matters on certain details, you know age, religion, and if she's ready or not. I would have a serious talk with her. Don't say something like "Can I touch you?", just talk about exploring your boundries in your relationship or phrase it so it won't sound like all you want is s*x.

Answer 10

OKAY seriously if shes inexperience but is willing this is the BEST WAY!

like lets say u want HJ. when u two are making out bring her hand over to ur crotch. if she doesnt get that. simply hold her hand softly and go up and down together on ur manhood (lol) and then slowly let go and let her take it from there. boost her self esteem by like moaning and saying stuff like how good shes doing and ask to go faster or harder JUST Giver her a lot of direction the first time so she is completly comfortable! then u compliment after its done. Seriously best WAY!

and if u wanna talk about it with her start off when making out tel her u love her and ur hott for her and motion downward (It'll get a laugh and the hint across!)

Good luck mann

Answer 11

start with dry humping. then, get her really into it and grab her lovely lady lumps. if she gets really into it, and starts shouting your name, slowly move your hands up her shirt, undo her bra, and keep sliding those hands closer and closer to those sweet precious lumps of joy.

the female b*****s are the most precious things in the world. if you havent gotten that yet, then you need to get movin'.

Answer 12

Dane man it doesnt work like that.  You dont say "Can I play with your b***s?" unless you are being retarded intentionally.  Just do what you want and shell tell you no when you do something she isnt cool with.  Stop being a whimp before I come over there and take her away with my assertive masculinity.