Want women, but sometimes I avoid them?

Question

Hi, i'm a guy and I've noticed that I sort of avoid women when they start to get close. It's not just women but mostly them. Just to make clear, i'm not g*y. I find only women very attractive and all, but when starting to get close with them it's as if my mind gets reprogrammed to be alone. And it's frustrating because I want to be friends, be closer, date women but somehow I avoid them. My self-esteem is not as great but I guess you could say I am good looking because women have been the ones approaching me. Girls have given me their numbers, older women have flirted and hinted at me, lol there was even a mother and a daughter(most of them good looking) who constantly flirted with me but instead of having fun I avoid.

Has this happened to anyone else? Any good advice to stop being a loser?

Answer 1

The long term goal is to be close. The short term goal is to impress. To impress learn something, like guitar for example. And then when someone starts talking or you talk to them, you can talk about guitar. And then later you can play a few songs. Before you know it, you have a friend. Being close happens automatically, you are supposed to work on yourself first.

Answer 2

"because women have been the ones approaching me" that's why. you have to approach the ones you want.  

Answer 3

just remember some chicks are super cool and easy to talk to. girls can give great advice and hey are pretty nice to look at most of the time... just make some more girl friends and that should help you appreciate how wonderful having a woman around is.

Answer 4

it is always good, very good, to have friends, of different age groups, different tastes and interests: it does something to your own personality, helps you a lot in life, makes you, keeps you, happy! Go ahead, make friends, have a good time: you will get over the present difficulty very soon, and you will be very happy among friends very soon! good luck!  (the way you describe your present situation, it is normal, a temporary phase!)

Answer 5

You are not abnormal in anyway. may be the wright one has not yet come along.

Not all people are ok with sleeping around so in most cases when you realize that the out come will be worse than what you are achieving at the shortest time is worst, then its better to run before you can not control.

I think that, if you find some one with whom you feel free and enjoy her company, then i think you will not run any more. Just keep listening to the "inner self/voice".If you are not comfortable with the relationship and

you don't see any future(getting better) quit.

Good luck dear.

Answer 6

heres my theory, everytime you meet somebody you get to be anybody you want, you can be anybody you want to be and you dont have to avoid them...just have fun and dont think about it...it will come whenits supposed to

Answer 7

Well, you are either g*y, a virgin, or you are lying. The next time you get a mom/daughter combo you take advantage and get a 3 way.