Wanting a real relationship with a woman, but they tell me i need to wait = /?

Question

when i start talking to a girl seriously, they say im too young for a relationship with them. im turning 17 in nov. but its only because im not legal for them. the thing is , its nearly impossible to find girls that are les. where i live. plus i want someone older and more mature. well the few girls that i have found tell me to wait. but ii feel like i cant. im yearning for someone now. i want a relationship with a woman and i feel its impossible for me to wait till i at least move out because my parents dont even know about my sexual preferance like that. they would kill me . lol. so i choose to hide it from many people. and i feel once i have found the right woman , then i wont feel the need to hide it anymore. its hard though because i want something now that i cant have...any advice???

Answer 1

just hold on a bit. u have ur whole life and the entire world infront of u. just go on with ur life and u'll find someone.

i'm 16 and engaged. i got SUPER lucky. lmao. but everyone's different, what u feel u may want may not be what they want and if u try to force them or search too desperatly, u'll never be happy.

Answer 2

the only thing you can do is keep trying. . .i do know how hard it is to find girls in highschool. i had spent months searching myspace for someone in my area to be greatly disapointed (the only girls around and semi-out were much too butch). but you really do need to try and find someone your own age. i'm 20 and am having issues dating an 18 year old. a lot changes in those two years (mostly related to college and acceptance) and no matter how mature you may be or may think you are their are huge gaps. so really, just wait and don't give up. you'll find someone eventually, even if its not until college. (seriously, i'm a senior in college and just now starting a relationship with my first girlfriend)

it will happen eventually

Answer 3

If you're that worried about your mommy and daddy finding out, then you're not mature enough for it.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear about that. I wouldn't mind dating a girl younger than me [around your age] so don't worry, there are girls out there who live to be with younger girls. Keep looking I'm sure you'll find someone ;)

Answer 5

Poor girl, I hear you. I grew up in the L*****n wasteland, and I wasted a lot of years thinking I needed to find a man...

I hate to say it, but you need to keep talking to the girls. You'll meet one eventually, probably someone of a like mind (hard as it may be to believe, there will be some out there), and it will happen. Honest-to-god, girl, don't rush it. You'll regret it later, I promise.

Oh, and by the way, I doubt if your parents will kill you. When I finally came out to my Mom, she said "I was wondering when you were going to tell me." Give it time, but be true to yourself. There might be a storm when the truth comes out, but all storms pass. You'll make it through.

Answer 6

im exactly the same im also 16 but i dont really want an older woman i dont care...its hard because we havnt told any1 and i dont really want any1 to know yet but i guess the only way you could possibly find someone is if you came out to some of your friends i did but no luck so far lol

Answer 7

once i heard a woman saying i'm so glad for being a woman bc women are tricker

forget it

Answer 8

ya, it will not be any easier to tell your parents when you are dating someone.  you could look for some one that is less than 18 years old. otherwise i doubt you will find any someone that is willing to break a very strict law for you.