Wanting to be more then just friends? .. HELP!?

Question

I know its a lot to read but i want the best answers i can possibly get, and in order for that to happen, you need the story lol :)

I have this friend that i want to be more then just friends with. We both know we like each other, so that's out of the way. We knew each other for a few years but became really good friends this year, about 11 months ago. I had feeling for him for about 9 months, i dont know exactly how long he had feelings for me, but i know it is at least been around 6 months (it could be more, im not sure). He says things to me that make me feel like the most beautiful person in the world, when i see him smile, it makes me smile, and even when i just see him i smile. We talk to each other everyday. He always says the cutest things, hes the sweetest guy i know. He always tells me that he loves me, but still, nothin has happen between us. Last week i went to a party with him at his cousins bungalow. Before we left i had been talking to his cousin and he said that (so i dont use any names here) my "friend" was going to maybe make a move tonight. When we got there we started a fire, had a few drinks, then me & my "friend" went on a walk, we were gone for 2 hours. Stupid me took the bottle of fireball with us, and i got totally smashed and drank way to much(&no he didnt take advantage of me, if anyone may be thinking that), even still, from my understanding we had a pretty good conversation after awhile we went down by the lake to sit. I was laying on his chest and we were just talking and stuff, then i got sick and started throwing up (thank god not on him). He took care of me and made sure i was ok and everything, and then we started heading back to the bungalow, and i got sick again. After throwing up for a good half hour, one of the guys there carried me off to bed. Me and my "friend" slept in the same room, not the same bed, so yeah..that was that night. I wish i could remember more of it ;\ ...but anyway, then for a few days after that he seemed kinda weird when i would talk to him on msn, but then everything went back to normal again. I know hes probably just shy or nervous or something like that but like everyday he tells me he loves me, whats going on? We start high school in 2 weeks and im scared his feelings will change and he'll move on, im not trying to rush anything, im just scared to lose him, you know. So what should i do?? should i wait till he makes a move? (i cant wait forever..) should i make a move ?--> (if so, what should i do and how should i go about doing it?) i need help bad! (were both 15)

thanks for taking the time out to read this :)))

Answer 1

Wow when i was reading this i was thinking about how this had happened to me not too long ago lol. (I'm also starting high school =]) well what happened to me was i finally just got sick of waiting and i asked my friend to talk to him about it and to tell him he should ask me out, and it actually worked haha. he sounds like a really sweet guy, and if he really loves you then im sure he wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him. so i think that you should talk to him about a relationship and if he wants to have a future with you, but if that would be uncomfortable for you then i think you should get a friend to talk to him for you. just make sure the person you ask to do that is a friend to both you and the guy and is someone that the guy would be comfortable talking to about you. hopefully after someone tells him to ask you out then he will. =] good luck and i hope everything works out for you!  

Answer 2

Just ask him how he feels about you and he starting to date.  If you are friends you can ask him anything, but keep in mind once you start dating and if it does not work out you could loose his friendship.  So really evaluate the situation and see if this is what you really want.  

Answer 3

well i sort of kno how u feel...i lyk this guy but im not sure if he lyks me, i mean hes always talkin bout this gurl tricia who i dont even kno, but we r always talkin and hangin out and sometimes he'll give me weird looks and stuff when we r the only ones together...although hes never made a move or nothin so i dont kno. so i dont kno if this will help but from wat u hav told, i think since hes not makin a move maybe u should.

Answer 4

well i can't say i like the idea of a 15 year old getting wasted but anyway if you have feelings for him gor for it there is nothing to be afraid of. but how to approach him with that i'm not sure hope this helped even if it just hepled a little=)

Answer 5

Okay, the fact that there's a lot to read isn't so bad as the fact that you used a wall of text to show it.  Paragraphs would have helped.  

Now onto the facts.  Cearly you like each other, and it was kinda silly getting smashed; probably made it impossible for him to make a real move on you if he's the upstanding guy you're talking about.  Seems like he tried, but you kinda blew it.  So now it's your turn.  Girls like it when guys are the ones to make the move on them, so why shouldn't it be the same the other way around?  

by the way, you're right to know there is a chance he will lose interest, the longer you guys wait to get something started, but it seems like things are well on the way to moving somewhere, so don't fret too much.  Just be on your toes for when a good moment comes up and make your move.  

Good luck, and lay off the booze. You're too young for that stuff anyway, it's bad for a developing brain.