Wanting to get an annulment but he's no longer in this country?

Question

he and i married around 2004 and i felt like i was pushed a little b/c i kept telling him that i don't think i was ready at the time. being in a relationship with him for 2 years and knowing him since i was 16 when im 23 now, i would see us getting married one day but not that very moment, due to his situation ( backround/ getting deported ) . honestly, i don't consider it being an actual marraige when he went back to his hometown 2 months in the marraige life w/o a choice ( incarcerated for couple of years then had to deal with deportation ) and having to leave behind our son who was only 2 months when he went in and 2 years old when he actually had to be sent home!!! being faithful to him for thoughout our entire relationship and having to find out all thats happened when he was still around from all the friends and the weird phone calls.. i had to deal with everything alone with my son and try to ignore peoples neg. bs and be strong minded. now that we both had past the issue and moved on ,i am in a serious relationship, as well as he, i've been trying to hint to him to try and atleast help me pay for a divorce or if possible an annulment. he'd agree with me but i still haven't seen any help nor mailed or phone call from him or his mom ( he's a mommys boy ,in a way) she ( the mother in law ) even offered to help out but, actions are louder than words and i'm not the type to usually ask and all....

Answer 1

Oh, please!  Sounds like you are divorced all but legally.  If you want it to be legal, then you hire an attorney and get it done.

Work, save up your money, and hire an attorney.  

Why in the world would you expect an ex (and his family) to be helpful?  It is not going to happen.

And the divorce is not current boyfriend's responsibility.  The divorce is YOUR responsibility.  

You want the divorce?  Then you save up your money and pay for it yourself.  There you go.  Best advice you are going to get.  Stop whining, work, save your money, and hire an attorney.  The judge may make your ex repay part or all of your attorney fees . . . but to start the proceedings you are on your own.

Answer 2

Honey, unfortunately, the annulment is out of the question.  If you want a divorce and really need his help, it's better to just come out and ask.  Don't beat around the bush!  Tell him it's going to cost x amount of dollars and his part is x amount of dollars, then how long it will be before the divorce is granted.  Hubby's a mommy's boy, too, so stop going through her and go straight to the horse's mouth.

God bless you for all you've been through.  You sound like one tough cookie!  

God's blessings on you and yours...Always!!

Answer 3

Check locally with legal aid or go to legalzoom.com and see what your options are.  Since he has been gone most of the time you might be able to get the annulment.  Good luck!

Answer 4

You can go down to your City hall and pick up divorce papers your self

have him sign them and return them back to city hall it cost only $350.00

in Canada.But I think it's the same all over no matter what Country

you live in..As you were married for 4 yr.s but separated a Lot you can't get an annulment of marriage you fought to keep his butt there in your country you know that's all he wanted anyways that do and over with.  

Be the type to take action on this one as he took advantage of you at a young age. Go fight now that you are a grown women get your divorce

and have both of your X and his mother pay for it as the both were in on it together. Good Luck with your new love.