Was I in the wrong or is my boss an a-hole?

Question

Recently at work a coworker was selected for Employee of the Month. I found this out through an e-mail the boss sent to everybody. So I asked my boss why was he selected and when did anybody vote? He said that he selected him and he chose him because he has never declined overtime and he told him anytime he needs someone to do overtime, just call him. Keep in mind, that this guy is part-time and only works 20 hours a week. 2pm-6pm. I told my boss that there are other people that work full-time as well as overtime besides him, and I am limited in how much overtime I can work because I am a single parent. The boss said, "it ain't there problem that you have a kid." He said< if I called you at 3 am , you mean to tell me that you can't get someone to watch your kid? I'm like uh no, a freakin daycare isn't even open that late. So long story short, he only picked the guy because of the overtime situation because we are short and people are always calling off. Was I in the wrong?

Answer 1

What do you mean by &quot;in the wrong?&quot;  Legally, your boss did nothing wrong.  He&#039;s free to be a d**k head if he wants.  He&#039;s free to pick employee of the month based on the color of your shoes, if he wants.  

Is there a payment bonus to being employee of the month?  If there is no practical bearing on employee of the month, then he can discriminate however he wants.  If there is a substantial practical bearing (ie employee of the month is directly tied to raises, promotions, etc.), then he may NOT discriminate against you for childbirth and other related conditions (but I&#039;m not sure if childcare would fall within that).

Personally, yes, I agree with you that he is a prick.  But bosses are usually like that.

Answer 2

It sounds like your boss is not very sensitive to working parents.  He&#039;s an ******, but unfortunately he&#039;s in charge and you may have to deal with his anti-family sentiments.  You may benefit from shopping around for child care center that are open 24/7 or see if your child&#039;s father or your/his relatives can watch the child on a schedule like one or two nights a week to allow you opportunities for overtime if your boss allows it.  After you get this settled, you can ask your boss what times would you most likely be needed to work overtime.  Also, if applicable and your boss allows it, ask if you can do some work from home.  Try offering help to your co-workers on downtime and ask to learn new tasks.  In the end, it may pay off because your boss may notice other valuable qualities about you other than offering overtime.  I feel you have a legit gripe, but many boss don&#039;t like for any employee to complain about anything.

Answer 3

It was his call not yours. He could choose who he wanted and for what reasons. That is why he is the &#039;boss&#039; and you are not. I personally don&#039;t blame him for calling a meeting. If you won&#039;t talk and deal with it maturely then why shouldn&#039;t he? You brought it up and when you didn&#039;t like what he said you basically stomped out.

I think he has the right to do what he feels is right. If the other guy is able to bail them out of a bad situation then indeed he IS the employee of the month. But if you still feel your right then take it to the &#039;bigger boss&#039; and voice your opinion. But if your not careful, you won&#039;t have to worry about getting employee of the month. You will be more concerned about finding a new job.

Next time I would keep my tongue in check. The &#039;morale&#039; of the &#039;other employees&#039; isn&#039;t as important as dinner on the table for the kids. And from the sounds of it no matter who they picked you would have a problem with it unless it was you. Voicing your opinion doesn&#039;t mean you have to be rude or disrespectful. Good luck with the meeting, sounds like your gonna need it.

Answer 4

They&#039;re having a g*y relationship. So he might be an a*****e.

Answer 5

Well I would say your boss is an ***. That was rude what he said to you &amp; also I think that an Employee of the Month shouldn&#039;t be pick just becuase they can work over time or not, it should be based on how hard they work, how often they call in that month and if they are on time or not.

Answer 6

Quite simply, yeah, you&#039;re in the wrong.  You don&#039;t go above and beyond what is expected of you (which is understable if your a single parent), and the other guy does.

Also, confronting the boss about it and then refusing to discuss if further when the conversation didn&#039;t go your way was incredibly immature.  You certainly didn&#039;t do yourself any favors with your little temper tantrum.

And I wouldn&#039;t be surprised if you got fired for insubordination...could be what the meeting with his boss is about.

Answer 7

every one has a prioty, yours is your kid, his is staffing a restaurant- keep your priority in mind and you&#039;ll be OK