Was I out of line for patting her butt?

Question

My friends always bring their cloth to me if they need any kind of alteration cuz I went to design school years ago and I know how to do that stuff. Anyway, I was making some measurements on the dress my friend was wearing and I sorta commented that I hadn't noticed she had such a cute butt and kind of patted her playfully on the butt. She said "ooh" and giggled but then I noticed I had made her a little uncomfortable. I should have apologized on the spot but since I was doing her a favor I felt entitled not to do so at that moment. Stupid. Then yesterday when I returned her dress to her and she still seemed distant. Mind you, I'm a L*****n which she's always known. But usually when I do this sort of things straight girls don't mind. Certainly I didn't meant anything by it. It was just innocent flirting and a compliment. I don't know why this was a big deal to her. Was I out of line? Should I apologize?

Answer 1

apologize. she is freaked out by what you did. she may think you made a pass at her.

Answer 2

oh i think it will be ok.

Answer 3

Of course you should apologize because you know that is clearly was bothering her. You should have said sorry at the time, but it is never too late to apologize. Yes you were out of line. She probably thought you were coming on to her.  

Answer 4

I'd let it go. I think apologizing would make her more uncomfortable. I wouldn't worry about it either. She's your friend, she should know you didn't mean anything by it.

Answer 5

YES....

the same way when I went to get my FIRST mammogram and the technician who happened to be L*****n started HANDLING me for the machine made the comment while looking at me they were just the right size, just perfect.

Here I am exposed first time, AND THEY DID FIND CANCER later although the work she did was blurry and they had to redo only because of that) . And I have to deal with a L*****n making a pass at me.

Did she or didn't she?

It didn't make a bit of difference, that was TOTALLY out of line.

It's bad enough when you got cancer or wedding deadlines you don't need to be thinking about sexual harassment on top of it, and that was EXACTLY what that was.

Now you know how straight men feel when they might do something totally innocent and sweet TO THEM and the way they were raised and get told it's sexual harassment.

Peoples life style and habits may be totally innocent to THEM and those used to them or the same way as them, but There is ABSOLUTELY no difference between you doing that and any man or woman non family doing that.

The same as the comment from my mammo tech.. Totally unprofessional, totally inappropriate to NON g*y and g*y alike.

Keep your hands and your comments off body parts and to yourselves.

You should NOW apologize and you should of then. Yes it's out of line, AND forget what people here say, think of HER and what she says when you do.

Answer 6

Let this one slide by, but don't do this in the future.  Some people might feel that you're getting too "familiar" with them, and if those people know that you're a L*****n they might get an entirely wrong impression.

Answer 7

i understand how you feel.

im bisexual and its hard for me to do those osrta things without some girls thinking that im hitting on them.

which about 99% of the time im not.

i just have an aggressive personality.

i dont think you should apologize or out of line.

you did what you did.

you cant take it back.

and i think that friend should understand that you are who you are.

you are a flirter.

and that just because you get touchy feely with her doesnt mean you wanna sleep with her.

just act like it didnt happen.

hope this helps (:

Answer 8

No, you weren't out of line. Not really. She just felt pretty uncomfortable, like you said. You kinda made it awkward for her and she might feel you have some sort of romantic interest in her, so yes, apologize but I don't think it's too much of a big deal. Just say "I'm sorry I was kinda out of line with you, and I hope you're not mad at me."  

Answer 9

just say i am sorry if i made you feel uncomfortable and then she will understand. if she played along she probly didnt mind that much. if you apoligize it should be fine.

Answer 10

hey babe, dont worry about it, i doubt she cares. if she seemed distant she probably just had other things on her mind. xoxo

Answer 11

Maybe just bring it up in a joking manner and see what her reaction. She may act like it didn't even matter but if it did at least you acknowledged it