Was I right to break up with her?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and 10 months. I began to feel like I just wasn't interested in her anymore. We began to see each other less and not talk quite as much. I didn't know what to do, but I really didn't want to keep dragging this relationship on and make things worse. So was it a good decision to break up?

Answer 1

sounds like if you didn't do it, it would have ended anyway.

i think what you did was rather right.

Answer 2

If you don't feel like that is where your heart belongs, then yes, that's what you are supposed to do.  What, are you supposed to stay with her forever to keep from hurting her feelings?  You would only end up hurting her worse in the long run.  When you know it's not forever, you need to end it now, so you can both find happiness elsewhere.

It's hard to say goodbye, especially when you know it's going to hurt someone else, but I think that too many people let that stop them, and they stay in relationships they shouldn't be in.  

That's what "MAN-UP" means.

You did the right thing, Brother.

Answer 3

It certainly was. Mature relationships require a lot of thought and sacrifices. You may not always find her attractive, appeasing, talkative or appealing yet Love makes adjustments. Read http://www.freewebs.com/soniapaul/articl... for a better tip on Relationships and your Intuition. If you can relate to the articles, please post your feedback. Thanks

Answer 4

YES,YOUR VERY SMART,CAUSE U WILL GIVE HER N YOU A CHANCE TO FIND YOUR ONE REAL TRUE LOVE,,,THATS WHAT ITS ALL ABOUT,,,SO GO OUT THERE HAVE FUN,,DATE LOTS OF GIRLS,,DONT JUMP INTO A RELATIONSHIP,,,RIGHT AWAY,,THERES TO MANY GIRLS OUT THERE TO CHOOSE FROM,,,B HAPPY,,,LIFES TO SHORT TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP,,,THAT HAS EXPIRED,,,PEACE

Answer 5

I think It was a good thing to let her go if you were not interested anymore

Answer 6

yer, at least u weren't leading her on. You can't date someone if ur not interested in them.

Answer 7

yes......you werent interested anymore and you didnt want to lead her on :]

Answer 8

That is a really long relationship but people change and move on. You both probably had your fun but found it hard to continue that. Sometimes things can get a little boring and so you find yourself not being as intersted. It's not your fault, so yes, you did do the right thing. but I hope you two will remain friends.

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Answer 9

if you dont have any more feelings for her, then you made the right choice.

^_^

Answer 10

Yes- and you will know it was the right descision when you find someone who will make you happy again... but you gotta be single to meet them!

Answer 11

i think u should breakup with her,,..it will hurt her i will make her cry,,..but u have to tell her,,..it's better than laying to her,,..its like the song say goodbye hehehe,,..

wish u luck,,..

Answer 12

a relationship is the responsibility of two people. why did you lose interest? did you try to talk to her and give your relationship a chance to grow and change, or were you so bored that you gave up ? what does that say about you? i'm glad the relationship ended ,this will allow you and her to find someone more compatible. will you ever find someone that you won't get bored with? relationships take a great deal of work from both parties, to keep them alive . are you mature enough to do that?  

Answer 13

Sam, this probably won't be the favorite answer, as the truth rarely is.  Do you realize that less than two hundred years ago people did not choose who they were to marry?  Yet marriages flourished back then, and they rarely ended in divorce.  Obviously something attracted you to her in the first place; looks, wanting whatever you could not have, conversations well into the evening, having a difficult time saying goodbye on the telephone/internet, but since then something has changed hasn't it?  Maybe she has given in to you in some way, and is no longer the interesting challenge she used to be.  Truth be known infatuation doesn't last, and love requires work that not many are up for.  In older times people had to learn to love someone after their marriage, normally they were not attracted to one another in the beginning, it was something first tolerated, then it came easy, then it became preferred, then it became absolutely indispensable.  Do you see the progression?  Look the one for you will not be obvious, she won't be the one you would choose for yourself, odds are she is average to you at best, however over time and work, she will blossom and surprise you, and eventually yes she will turn into the one you can not live without.  The problem with our generation is the nature of the age, I bet you haven't waited an hour for a baked potato in your life in a microwave it takes about 8 minutes, however if you wait for an hour it tastes better from the oven. So too is love, it is possible to get it in 8 minutes, but it doesn't taste as good as if you labor and wait for it.  Sam maybe the attraction was all wrong, maybe she pacified your eyes but not your soul, if that is the case stop looking with your eyes, they will deceive you, however if this is because you don't put enough work into this and you are into "what has she done for Sam today?" you will always be disapointed, eventually as time progresses no one can fill that bill.  Love is the work you put into the relationship when you would rather run away and take the easier road, but everyone chooses that road initially, until they realize the less travelled road tastes better, and outlasts the other, and is the only road for those who want better for themselves in the long run.  Hope this makes you a little uncomfortable but wiser for it.