Was I rude?

Question

Today, one of my old priest came in to my job at the library. I haven't been to church in months & hadn't seen her in a long time b/c she was doing a diff service than the one I went to. She was terminated earlier this year. I'm not sure why. I think it's just b/c she and the head priest couldn't work well together (using his words). Well, she walked into the lib. And we saw each other and she said hey and I said hi. And she how are you?

Good how are you.

Good.

She didn't say anything else, so I kept walking.

While I was sorting the books. She walked over and said

It's good to see you.

I said the same.

She asked me was I going to school, and about my job, did it pay well, was it boring, I told her at times. And she asked stuff like that.

Answer 1

You were polite.  It seems to me she was giving you an opening to talk or ask personal questions if you wanted, but didn't have to.  You were polite.

Answer 2

From one introvert to another-

you handled everything correctly,

and that was a very nice email

that you sent to her.

Answer 3

I wouldn't see that as being rude.

Answer 4

i dont think that was rude. =)

Answer 5

It sounds like she wants to get with you. You should have said something.

Answer 6

Why do you think that was rude? You chatted to her, even though you were at work. It's not like she was your best friend or anything. I think you were fine.

Answer 7

Based upon what you have posted no I don't think it was rude.

Answer 8

Not rude, just awkward. It's awful being terminated and also kind of lonely.  Maybe you could have been a little friendlier but you were working and it's a library so talking is kind of discouraged.

Answer 9

I understand

It sounds like she was lonely and wanted to chat a bit feeling a bit of a loss due to her job.

She was attempting to connect with you  and it was an awkward moment.

What you did was not rude or rude.  It was what it was.

You just did not pick up on it and she did not share more clearer on her need.

It happens.

You may attempt to connect with her again and ask how she is doing next time you see her.  She may be attempting to reach out to you because your a familiar person from her past.  

Is there a way to contact her?

You may want to and check in with her.  I hope she is not suicidal due to her lost of purpose losing her job as a priest.

If she an episcopalian priest.  

I am concerned because I used to work on a help line and it sounds serious.  She lost her purpose and now may feel lost.

LFT

Answer 10

Noppe you were blunt but not to blunt and not rude just saying in body language you are boring

Answer 11

Doesn't sound to me like you were rude at all. From what you stated, It doesn't appear to me that she felt you were rude either.