Three years ago, I had emotional affair with a married man when I worked for his family as a live-in nanny. I didn't do anything inappropriate even though I in love with him. It was all about him. He was smitten which putting me in an extremely awkward situation. Non-stop talking about me, teasing, and flirting, even in front of his wife. His wife knew about it but never said anything. However, it did bother me when he did those ridiculous things.
It seemed like they had some kind of agreement. As long as the man didn't hide from his wife, it was not cheating and acceptable. Instead of discipline the husband, the wife watched me like hawk. The way I was treated as if I was their slave. My feeling and my rights seemed didn't exist to them. I felt like a piece of meat. Finally, I left.
After I left, I became depressed. It was the unfinished business feeling got into me. I thouth I should talk to that man, clear thing out and had a closure, so I could make peace with him and with myself. The result, the man called his wife while I was talking to him. His wife rushed over and screamed at me in public until he started screaming at me, and said "it's over! If you come back again I'll call the police".
And that's not enough; they did call the police accusing me for harassment. Was I so wrong and deserved it, or I was just bad luck to meet odd couples like them? If my closure talk with him was harassment, does that mean his flirting and teasing can be count as sexual harassment?
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