Was flirting with this guy bad Karma?

Question

Heres the thing, I've been married for just over a year, am not very happy and still thinking of leaving my husband, sometimes my only outlet is my thoughts.

A few months back I met this guy he's really down to earth and understands me I started making flirty comments to him which got the reaction I was expecting, everyday I would email him saying how I would love to hug him or kiss him.... Sometimes more.

Last month I put our friendship on the backburner but I feel really hurt now, my husband never wants to do things with me doesnt even seem to care how I feel and now my guy friend hasnt emailed me in the longest of times and when he does I feel bad thinking I've led him on or something.

Does anyone else believe this is bad Karma or am I just being superstitious here?

Answer 1

flirting isent that bad as long as it dosent go as far as exchanging numbers and hanging out with that person. if you wouldn't your husband to o it to you then yea you should stop.

Answer 2

You where having an affair on line. Your husband knows something was going on but doesn't know what, and during that time you treated your husband with disdain. Now you want him to fall all over you. You need to go have some counseling to find out what is wrong with you. You are still playing the dating game but are married. There is no Karma here or superstition, just someone wanting the best of both worlds.  

Answer 3

From one woman to another we both know why your not interested in your husband your "new husband", its cuz someone else showed interest and attention to you.  Why don't you just be alone for a while and get your own thoughts together on this?  You might realize alot of things about yourself and your life and just maybe you'll see the man you married just a short year ago.  Another guy in the picture is only going to blur your vision.  Good luck

Answer 4

Sukie,

1) Step back from this situation.  You have been only been married a year!  Can you base a lifetime commitment on 365 days?  Of course not!

2) There was some reasons that you went to the altar and told the world that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with your husband.  It is hard from me to believe that your husband doesn't undertand you because I don't think you would have knowingly married a man that doesn't get you.

3) Marriage is not about convenience.  Why not try to participate in some of your husband's hobbies.  Watch sports with him.  Go to a bar and drink with him.  Right now, it sounds like you may be expecting something like going to the mall with you.  Ask to do something on HIS territory.

Go to a local football game (professional or high school).  

This other guy who "gets you" is a distraction from your putting in enough energy to make this marriage work.  Marriage is not about bliss all the time.  Sometimes it's about doing things you don't even like for a person that you love deep down.

Think about it.

Answer 5

Girl it is Karma.  What goes around, comes around.  Maybe your husband doesn't show you the attention you want because after a few months into your relationship you were showing your attention to another man.  What could have go wrong after only a few months of marriage that would make you want to "cheat" on your husband.  To me (again personally) telling another man you want to do things to him that you should only be doing with your husband is a form of cheating.  I would be outraged to find out my newlywed husband was having this conversation with another woman.  I say work more on your marriage and less on getting your "friendship" back.

Answer 6

man, oh, man. Do I ever understand your situation....

My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years and married for almost 2 of them.

We have a pretty great relationship for the most part and a beautiful son to show for it.

However, he isn't always there for me and can't give me what I need. I try to talk to him and make him understand and he says he does but he just goes and does the same thing he always does which is nothing.

Beyond that though is the boredom you can feel being in the same relationship with the same person doing the same things for so long.

We have or well had a mutual friend and the two of us flirted a lot. At first he and I kept it all fun and games but we crossed the line a couple months ago and kissed and some other stuff. No s*x though.

I feel guilty in the sense that I obviously shouldn't have cheated on my husband. But I don't feel guilty because it was something this guy and I both wanted.

However, now this dude refuses to speak to me...

A lot of people are like "well it serves you right you cheated on your husband and you expect this guy to want to talk to you?"

Yes, I DO EXPECT him to want to talk to me or at least tell me WHY he doesn't want to.

It isn't like he didn't know I was married, or that he didn't know what he was doing and that he was betraying a friend's trust as I was betraying my husband's.

So, I feel like a d-bag whenever his name gets brought up between my husband and I. Because, what am I suppose to say " He won't talk to me cause he tried to bang me?"  of course it goes beyond that to like " I betrayed my husband's trust and for what?" I want to just scream at this guy and be like " HELLO, I CHEATED ON MY HUSBAND WITH YOU AND YOU HELPED! YOU CHEATED WITH YOUR GOOD FRIEND'S WIFE" but of course what can you really do about it? He probably likes me, feels guilty, and figures h**l, I'm not around so I don't have to deal with it, and I'm not the one that was married. Who the heck knows what he is thinking ( I SURE DON'T!)

Anyways, the whole point to my little story is this.

Just because you made and or make a mistake doesn't mean you deserve to be treated like garbage or make yourself feel like you are garbage. We are only human after all nothing more, nothing less.

Just be honest with this guy you were e-mailing and say "hey, this is how I feel and I just wanted to tell you even if you don't want to talk anymore."

Also, it's up to you if you want to tell your husband about the e-mailing the guy thing. Whether you choose to tell him or not. You just do what feels right for you.

Also if you haven't expressed your unhappiness with the marriage to your husband you should. If you both decide you still want to be together then the work you put into making it work will be worth it in the end.

Whatever you decide to do just take some deep breaths and keep your head up!

<3 Good Luck!!  

Answer 7

Try talking to your husband en solve your peoblems u can solve but chatting emails on line ,try save your mariage