Was i wrong to break up with him? he's a liar?

Question

the guy that i had been seeing started lying about stupid things so i ended it because i don't see the point in wasting both of our time. he would lie about how many bars he went to one night (he told me 1 but then there were pix tagged on facebook from 3 bars that night) or he'd tell me he was wearing a certain shirt and then id see pix and hed wear something different but still claim that he wore the shirt he told me he was wearing (stupid things) i complimented his cologne and he claimed he wasn't wearing any (i know cologne when i smell it I'm not dumb) he lied about being friends with this kid that we both know...just stupid things to lie about. the way i see it if hes going to lie about stupid things whats to make me believe hed be honest when it was something serious?

was i wrong to end things?he sensed something was up and when i told him we need to talk he refused to answer the phone so i sent him an email explaining how i felt and saying that i dont want to continue to see him.. was that cold of me?

im 23 and he's 21 so i feel hes old enough to know better than to lie all the time about stupid things. his friend told me that he lies all the time and that people usually just accept it and dont pay attention to what he says

what are ur thoughts?

Answer 1

Nope you did the right thing. All those little lies would have him have big lies that you may or may not find out. Why would he lie so much to his lover girl "You".

You did the right thing, you saved yourself from whatever lies he would tell you in the future.  

Answer 2

yea, it is good u end the relationship with him... Love is about having trust and telling the truth to each other.. You experience the same problem as me.. i had my lst love, the girl i love so much.. did so many things for her, but ended up, she lied to me despite going steady for already 1 and a half years and even went telling others it was my fault... Therefore, my reputation with my old friends were wounded... and i just broke up with her..

Answer 3

I totally agree with you.  If he has lied about little things, then what's to stop him about lieing about bigger issues.  And with even the smallest lies, it is then hard to trust him.  He may one day tell you the truth, but you wont believe him.  So, I think it would be best for you to maybe confront him, if he means that much to you, and talk to him about the lieing.  If he cant or wont do something, then first he needs help but I think way out of control for you.  You will have to let him be.    Furthermore, if he thinks he is doing nothing wrong with his lies, then he is wrong, because in this whole process of him making up bullshit stories he is hurting people that care for him, but unfortunately can never trust him.  The only person that can truly be happy with him is another patholigical liar and then that person will probably s***w him over.  What goes around comes around.

Answer 4

you were right to dump the guy. if he's gonna lie about what shirt he wore, then he's gonna lie about bigger stuff in the future and that's going to cause you guys to break up. also, the guy seems like a baby for not answering the phone. he should have taken it like a man and answered the phone. instead he was acting immature. so no, your e-mail wasn't cold. how else were you supossed to break up with him if he was being immature?

hope i helped

Answer 5

you had broke up with him already so there is no more chance to change from the start. just find another and i know someday, you can get the one whom you wanted for...

Answer 6

The dude sounds like someone you can't trust and he's immature.  Sounds like he enjoys partying a lot which usually equates to improper behavior.

In other words...be happy you dumped him and move on to someone else who is worth investing your time with.

Answer 7

i think u shuld dump him..

Answer 8

he is far from good enough for you

Answer 9

I think you were definitely right to dump this guy! If you feel something was not right then it was probably the case. Sounds like he was trying to hide something. You're only young and you deserve to find someone who will be honest and up-front with you from the start. Don't settle for less!

Answer 10

you should break up with him