Was it just the wedding?

Question

Last Saturday my bf and I went to the wedding of a real good friend, and my bf was the best man, he also caught the garter.

All night that night at the after party and reception, people kept talking about when the two of us were going to get married, and for that night we actually talked about it, which in previous conversations, we'd always said that we didn't want to get married.

So was it just all the talk about weddings, and being at the wedding itself that has made him somewhat change his mind?

I'm 19 weeks pregnant with his child. He is 28 and I'll be 27 next Saturday.

Any insight will help.

Answer 1

I don't know where you come from, but where I'm from if you love someone then you should marry that person,

you've been with the guy for almost 6 years and expecting a baby soon, I'm sure that should mean something.

look @ it this way the best environment for the child to grow up in is at the house where mom and daddy are both commit ed.

oh! one more thing don't waste time you are not getting any younger.

hope you make a right decision.

Answer 2

It depends on how the convo went... For example, I was at my cousin's wedding and caught the bouquet and at the time I wasnt thinking about getting married until a few years later.. Ended up being a few months later my now husband and I started to seriously talk about wanting to get married and start our lives together.. and 6 months after my cousin's wedding I was the one walking down the isle. So your wedding might be coming up soon. :-)

Answer 3

I say if you really want to marry him then do it...don't do it just because people think it's the right thing to do

Answer 4

You talk a lot about where your partner's head is, but not one word about what you want.  Why not start there?  Do you want to get married?  Do you absolutely not want to get married?  Do some serious thinking on your own and decide which camp you're in.  Then talk to him.  Tell him what you want and why.  Even if you can't decide talk to him about the pros and cons.  You've been together a long time and are having a child together.  There should be no subject that's off limits.  But before you talk you have to know what you want in your own heart of hearts.

Answer 5

if he brings it up again,than yes he does.

Answer 6

I think you guys should have a serious talk about marriage. Its sounds to me you both might be ready to get married. Your even pregnant with his child. So, a serious talk covering all matters should place  you both in the right postition.

~BLooperZ

Answer 7

Weddings usually inspire other weddings.

I would think after 6 years and a kid on the way you know each other well enough to get married.

Answer 8

going to other peoples weddings usually helps bring the conversation up. i think he wants to but hes scared to. we just got married a few weeks ago and we have a 1 year old and were together for 5 years so anything can happen. trust me its a good feeling. congrads on the baby. they are alot of work but well worth it!

Answer 9

Ok been together for 6 years, your pregnant......what are you guys waiting for?

I do know that guy always think of the financial aspect of it...which in a way is a good thing. he probably thinks that you guys cant afford a great big wedding especially now that you're pregnant.

Talk to him...

Answer 10

Listen to Mr. Taco's answer.  He makes such good sense.  

He brings up the extra concerns that a child will bring to your relationship.

Go for it.  What are you waiting for....

Good Luck.

Answer 11

Wow, besides the baby, I was totally in the same boat as you for the longest time, LOL.  My fiance and I have been together almost 6 years as well, and we got engaged on New Year's Eve, but up until then people were always asking us when we'd get married, and every time I heard a friend was engaged, or every time we went to a wedding, we'd end up in a big fight because I wanted to get married and he wasn't ready yet.  But you know what?  I'm glad I stuck by him and waited until he was ready, because when he finally did propose, I knew he meant it from the bottom of his heart, and that he was asking because he genuinely wants to marry me, not because I'd given him an ultimatum and he was afraid I'd leave him or anything.  The feeling of knowing beyond a doubt that he's really into this wedding and our marriage is worth all those years of frustration, waiting to see if he would be the marrying kind after all.  Wait it out with your man, and in the meantime remember all the reasons why you love him and want to be with him.  Also, keep in mind that marriage isn't everything- if you two love each other and have a baby on the way, you're already a little family.  The rest is just legal stuff.  It will happen, you'll see.  Best of luck!!

Answer 12

Well, it could have just been the wedding that made him say it, or it could be that, since you have been pregnant, he is starting to feel different about the idea of getting married.  Talk to him about it again and see what he says.

Answer 13

My guess would be.......". that it was the wedding, and I will be agreeable so as to not start an argument.... but If I really wanted to get married, I would have asked you before we moved in together and you got pregnant...I'm not absolutely sure that this is what I want to do..."

Answer 14

If you never were interested before, then it was probably just the wedding. Wait a couple of months and see how you feel then. If you still think it is a good idea, then why not? The fact is that at this point in your life it is a good idea. You are having a baby together. The legal commitment of a marriage would benefit that child, as well as you and your man. It can be the difference between proper insurance for your child and no insurance at all. It can be the difference between a tax refund and owing taxes. Sometimes it can even be the difference between staying together and not staying together. You're already permanently committed to one another, right? If so, you're really married at heart anyway. All marriage constitutes is a public celebration of that commitment and legal protection of your union.

Answer 15

It may have been the wedding, that made him change his mind.  After all maybe he wants that lifetime commitment to you, and he wants to be a family, not just to people parenting a child.  If you have been together 6 years, why not get married, you love him enough to have a child, but not enough to say "I do".

Answer 16

i think  hesgonna pop the question soon good luck hun ;|)