Was it wrong for me to be so jealous...??

Question

ok, i recently took a trip to the phillipines with the family & my sister got a lot of attention (compliments, favorings, smiles, people actually talked to her, etc.) because she has very light skin. (Filipinos love pale skin) I never even realized she was considered the "pretty one" until this trip.

(We even went to an event where the make-up people caked my face in pale powder to make my skin lighter)

im not usually like that but i was secretly kind of depressed throughout the trip because of that ...

Anyways what do you think, was it wrong for me to be as envious/jealous as i was???

Answer 1

I think that is wrong i think that people should except you the way you are

Answer 2

Where are you now?  Tan rocks!

Answer 3

no i don't think that it was necessarily wrong for you to be jealous, just human. almost every one i know would want to be the person getting the compliments rather than the person standing next to them. also take it form someone that has sisters, it is only natural to get a little jealous once in a while.  

Answer 4

Yes it was very wrong for you to be Jealous of your sister.  I don't know if you believe in God or his Word but listen to what  God said about people that are jealous.

Galatians 5:19-21  The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.  I warn you, as I did before, that those who lie like this will not inherit he kingdom of God.

James 3:13-18 Who is wise and understanding among you?  Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom.  But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth.  Such "wisdom" does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil.  For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.

You can read verses 17 and 18.

Being jealous or envious of any one or any thing will only tear you apart.  It will not harm the person you are jealous of.  

No one can take any credit in their looks if they are pretty or handsome or any blame if they are not pretty or handsome for God made each of us like he wanted us to look.  What we can control is how pretty we are on the inside which is far more important than what we look like on the outside.

Blessings  

Answer 5

yes don't be jealous of ur sis just be happy that u have a sis i have no sis and i have nothing to do onlu go shopping and do my computer and go to high school

Answer 6

Ehh, I could see how you'd be upset, but I don't think you should let a bunch of Filipinos decide how pretty you are (no insult to them, but honestly, why care?).

I guess it's just their customs.  Don't be ashamed of yourself because of it.  It's not wrong, as you say, to have been envious, but it shouldn't be a huge deal.

Answer 7

sure

Answer 8

This is normal, I mean my parents don't even

listen to me half of the time and yet they do to my brother.

There is going to be a point where you'll get all the attention

give it passions. Usually the older one gets left behind and it sucks.

well hope this helped =]

Answer 9

It's not wrong for you to be jealous, (cool I'm a filipino too!) my sister... well i saw a picture of a little girl and her together. I was very jealous of this because i thought she loved her more than me, so i started with a fit (i was only 5 this time). She said "Oh isn't she adorable?!" i knew she was trying to get me more jealous. So yes it's alright for you to be jealous, girl i was ballin my eyes out because my sister did that to me. but we don't see each other no more. cuz she don't like to visit, that's what i think.

Answer 10

be glad you don't live there.

Answer 11

It is normal to be jealous of attention, and want to get more attention, but don't be jealous about your looks. I'm Fourteen and 255 pounds and I love myself and every second of life.  

Answer 12

things can seem harsh when they suddenly dawn on you.  theres nothing wrong about being jealous when something like that happens.  but just think about all of the other good things about you and just keep in mind that it might seem like everyone thinks that way about your sister, but the truth is not everyone thinks that way.  =)

Answer 13

no but if you do something drastic like kill or hurt anyone then it would be wrong. its ok to want attention. i know i am jealous of my sisters because they got to do things that i don't when they were my age  

Answer 14

They were fascinated with her cause she looks like an oddball to them, different cultures have different views of beauty and uniqueness.  Wouldn't be jealous of that.

Answer 15

Wrong or right is not really a choice. We can't help our feelings. How you feel is how you feel. You don't say how old you are but I get the feeling you are in your teens. So if this helps. We went on a trip to see my family when I was a teen and my grandparents took us to the mall and wanted to buy us school clothes and I couldn't find anything to fit. I was at an awkward stage where I was short and fat and pimply and of course my brother was perfect. Still sucks to think about it but I outgrew it.

Answer 16

I hope you weren't nasty to your sister because of it.

And after the generalisation comments, shame on you!

My wife is Vietnamese and they also prefer pale skin, you see the girls on their motos with arm length gloves, masks and goodness knows what else!

Different races like different things, but don't be jealous, because that only hurts yourself.

Alternatively, find god then you can get married and be like Barbie, but remember, Ken does not have a p#n*s!

Answer 17

You have a right to feel bad. It sounds to me like you were degraded next to your sister. Don't feel bad. Different cultures consider different features beautiful. Don't let it get to you. Keep your self-esteem high. Concentrate on your beautiful aspects. Look and feel great.

Answer 18

in a way yes.

i envy my sister alot too.

but the skin SHOULDNT matter at all.

be proud of what u look like

Answer 19

well think this is normal and you can get a bit upset but you know what you are ok and you will come out ahead when you grow up and marry so take care.