Was it wrong to check my wife's cell phone?

Question

I was very suspicious of my wife's activities so when I saw her cell phone unattended, I went thru it checking her text and call logs. I found issues with calls and texts to a male coworker that made me even more suspicious. Now that I confronted her she is angry at me for going thru her phone. On the other hand, she has no problem going thru my computer looking thru all my files and information. I really don't care about that because I have nothing to hide. It seems she is using her anger to justify her misdeeds, again which are highly suspicious and I believe she is hiding a lot of things from me. I do believe she is having an affair with a coworker, I want the truth, and I don't think I'm getting it.. I have confronted her about her having an affair, but she denies it. This is the final stage of our 22 year marriage. I feel she can't be trusted and she does little to set things straight. Was I wrong to check her phone?

Answer 1

If you think she cheating, just pack your stuff and go. She isn't going to come clean now, especially since she knows you're going thru her phone. The fact that she's mad at you for doing it, sounds like she's trying to put the blame on you. Ask her straight up, if she still wants to be married to you and you want a straight answer. You deserve a straight answer. Just be ready for the answer. If she say's she wants to stay married, can you trust her?

Answer 2

When you go looking for trouble you find it. You had no right to invade her privacy even if she does go through your pc. You can't control the actions or emotions of anyone else so if she is cheating it will come out at some point. What you need to do is stop fueling the flames with mistrust and start understanding and communicating. After ou've done all that you can in the relationship if things don't work out you should still have your integrity nowing that you did all that you could to make things work.

Answer 3

yes i think it is wrong to check her cell phone cause she may have some personal stuff in there

Answer 4

I myself have been guilty of a few phone checks in my past, my boyfriend just laughs about it now.  I will check his phone ONLY IF strange things are going on.  He has gotten mad in the past, but we had other issues with me and trust (I carried a lot of bags), however, it sounds like her anger is from guilt.  She can feel the heat, you are closing in on getting an answer.  I would tell you to confront her on the issue one more time,if you still feel she is hiding something call the dude and ask.