Was moving out on my husband wrong? ?

Question

Though he never confessed to cheating I moved out because of another woman I had lost all trust and respect for him, there was hardly any conversation lots of fighting and just existing after a while, then his family started getting involved with his mother constantly calling and sending food then his little sister needing a driver. I realised he and this girl were still communicating and I started tripping constantly he couldn't stand it finally I got the nerve one night to see what he was up to and I saw him dropping her home, he said he was just giving her a drop home, I moved out a month later. We worked things out and our marriage was getting back on track when I found out there was another woman in that space we were apart. Now he's deleting text messages and I just let my mind go wild. Should I see it as I left him open to begin with or is he a total looser?

Answer 1

your first instincts to leave were correct.  you shouldn't have gone back.

Answer 2

what if your husband really were just 'dropping her off?' I think everybody is innocent until proven guilty. I mean when you moved out, maybe it wasn't right of him to find another women because maybe you two didn't set any boundaries..but for all he knows you two were split up. I think there was alittle bit of an assumption here..unless I read your story/ question wrong..I don't think this is unsolvable.

Answer 3

I think you should of trusted your instincts to begin with and stayed away from this man. He is clearly a loser.  

Answer 4

seems like you did the right thing moving out.  To me it looks like you both need a "cooling off" period.  Don't do anything drastic.  Let a few days go by.  Treat yourself to some away time to think and then, hopefully both of you can discuss your future.  This isn't easy.  I been through it before with my wife and its heart wrenching.  

Answer 5

it's not even worth staying with him

people don't change unless they choose to and obviously he does not want to change at this point in his life

there are men out there who can be trusted.  marriages where both spouses don't have to deal with trust problems and infidelity.

you're not in one of those marriages, don't you want to be?

you know you deserve better. you know you want to come home to a husband who gives you no reason to doubt him.  

Answer 6

HOW much Proof do you need, the man is a CHEATER, your only mistake was taking so long to leave him. Make a clean cut, this man does not respect you, find someone who will treat you with respect, honesty and truly LOVES you.

Answer 7

Follow your heart...You sound young and pretty. We all make relationship mistakes along the way.  Some in high school, some in college and yes, some in marriage.  Take what you've learned.  Remember how you felt. and move on. You won't be the first person gong through what you'll have to do and sorry enough you won't be the last.  Tough up, take a deep breath and move on to your next spectacular adventure.  It's only up from here.  

Answer 8

You did the right thing!  Stay strong now and don't go back, because some where along the way he's probably going to want you back!  Don't do it you deserve better!  Do you want to continue living like that, you know always stressing and going crazy?  Just let him go he will never change!!!!  Give it time and you'll see I bet even in a couple months you will be feeling better!!