Was my friend impolite? Or am I too sensitive?

Question

I told her I had gone to the mall for a bit and she asked if I bought anything. I simply said "no...", to which she replied "You never buy anything. Buy some new stuff", and then I just kept quiet.

The reason I didn't buy anything was because I'm having a lot of financial problems right now and can't afford new stuff all the time, but she doesn't know this. So am I being too sensitive about it?

Answer 1

She wasn't impolite and you were not too sensitive.  You should just tell her the truth about your financial problems.

Answer 2

Maybe she just doesn't understand what it's like to be broke.

However, if she doesn't know about your financial problems, then you probably are being a little too sensitive. Try explaining it to her, and if she is still insistent on you spending money, then she is being impolite.

Answer 3

You are sensitive to your financial strain right now.  She didn't mean anything by it.  You don't need to get deep into your problems but just say "Hey, money is tight right now.  I can't afford to be buying things I really don't need".  Your friend could be deeply in debt and not financially responsible and think nothing about pulling the credit card out just to buy something.  You may be more mature and understand what you can and can't have at the moment.  No need to be ashamed.

Answer 4

She was being impolite but she probably didnt mean anything by it.

Answer 5

She's impolite and you're not too sensitive. As a close friend she should know your financial situation and not say that.

Answer 6

She sounds like she was being a little snippy. Ignore her it's not any of her business.

Answer 7

It would be impolite if she meant that she hates your clothes and you should buy something new or if she thinks you're cheap and that's why you didn't get anything.

It wouldn't be impolite if she was thinking you're not nice enough to yourself and you should do something nice for yourself once in a while.

So, I guess it depends on how she said it.  You don't have to tell her about your financial problems if you don't want to either.

Answer 8

um....nah ur nt being sensitive. but does ur friend know that u have financial problems? if she does...well shes a *****. if she doesnt then i would try to just ignore it.

Answer 9

You don't have to explain anything to her, because it's none of her business what your financial situation is or why you did or didn't buy anything.

I've been in your shoes.  When someone would start in on the "why didn't you buy anything?", I usually responded by saying that I just went to the mall to walk around where it was air conditioned instead of walking around my neighborhood in the summer heat.  (Or to walk around where it was comfortably warm instead of walking outside in the rain and cold.)

I've also said that I went to the mall to enjoy the Christmas music and decorations and be part of the crowd but wasn't interested in actually shopping.  And I've used the "Oh, I was just browsing to get some ideas for my Christmas shopping" line, too.  

You're understandably sensitive about finances.  But your friend means no harm; she's just asking the question that society has taught her to ask.  Brush it off with your own mall walker/browser/people watcher line, and don't let your feelings get hurt.

Answer 10

Your friend's comment was a bit harsh, but because of your current situation, it is likely a sore spot for you as it is. However, "buy something new" is kind of a rude thing to say to a person, so I don't think you're being too sensitive about that.

Best Regards,

Holly

Answer 11

My friend said to me how come you always broke but I didn't get mad at her because I'm not always broke I'm not a material girl like her I make my own money if your friend want to buy the whole store that's her problem just tell her that you don't want to buy anything because you don't buy what you don't need you rather keep the money in your bank or pay for something more important she doesn't have to know your financial situations she will put you down even more.

Answer 12

Yes..she hit a sore spot with you.  I would advise her that you are not in the best of financial shape and that going to the mall can't be a free spending event anymore..  

She will understand.. and most people in today's economy will.  

Answer 13

You are probably over sensitive because of your financial problems. I doubt that she was trying to hurt you. Just say, "Things are a little tight right now so I need to be careful with money." If she is a good friend, she will understand.

Answer 14

You're being too sensitive. I think she's just trying to start a conversation or she does think that you should buy new stuff. And you can't say that she's being impolite because she doesn't even know you financial status.