Was my mum wrong?

Question

i was talking to my friend last night about the boarding school i was sent to when i was 8. i was a really "off the rails" kid i was always in trouble (at home and with the police) i'd been suspended from loads of schools. been kicked out of a few terapists offices and was generally horrible and never did anythin i was told and once my brother died i got worst b/c he was the only one i would listern to and my mum couldn't cope with me so she sent me to a "Behavioural corretion" boarding school were they still used corparol punishment because it was the only thing that made a slight impact on me a home and she gave permission to use it one me. and for the first month i was just as bad there but after that they asked my mum for permission to use more than normal (maxium the could give it was twice a day but my mum agreed for more) but my friend said that my mum was mean to do that but i disagree becuase i now my mum just didn't want me to end up in Juvenile detention when i reached10

Answer 1

If it was the only way to help you then she did the right thing. You're saying that at this time corporal punishment was the only thing that had an impact on you. So it was either that or you going even more out of control.

What is your friend's background. If they lead a relatively sheltered life then they may not understand where you are coming from. It may also depend on your and your friends age.

I think that your mother did what she thought was best at the time and it apparently worked. You say she didn't want to see you in juvenile detention which saids to me that you didn't end up there.

Tell your friend that "Hindsight is 20/20" but your mother was doing what she felt was best for you.

Besides you can't change the past.

Answer 2

Well I teach kids with behavior disorders now. I think you needed some counseling and some other help, but no, your mother was not wrong. I work with a few kids, that if they just got a boot in their *** a couple of times, it would straighten their asses out really fast. I don't usually condone it, but man, they're just a few that that's what they need. I of course am not allowed to deliver it so i don't.

Answer 3

well how are you as a person now??

if it has changed your behaviour then she was right 2 do this!

if u feel like u need 2 talk about it though u should talk 2 her!

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Answer 4

i think you mum was way out of order. why would she let complete stranger beat him kid 8 times a day, 2 is bad enough but 8 and with a strap. that is evil. why didn't she just disciplince you with a time out when you were a toddler when it would have been effective. no can be that bad to need beating to make you behave out of fear, your mum needs parenting classes.  has your mother got no morals. that is horrible how can you learn respect when some is beating 10 bells of $hit out of you. i feel so sorry for you

Answer 5

mums are never WRONG they can be misinformed at times....but never question the intention of a mum .....as she is the only one !

Answer 6

i hope i never have a kid like you.

Answer 7

no ur mum did right