Was that right to say.?

Question

There is this girl named Ashton that is my "friend'. I moved to my school this year and I met her in gym class. I dont want to be mean but i think something was wrong with her. She would always make fun of people and call them stupid then invite herself over their house. I think she was just using me as a friend to watch american pie over my house. But i never let her come over. Then on night i saw her at a concert. I introduced her to my mom. My mom said that the color she was wearing look nice on her so she assumed that everyone thought she was pretty. I broke my foot a week after that and we met in the nurses office. She asked if she could come over my house again and i made up a lie and said i was going out of town. Then she said she liked my mom. And then she asked me if i thought she was pretty. I had to say yes even though she is not at all. Then she said i was UGLY. Because I tried out for her stupid little cheerleading team( that is JV and they said i should join competition cause this was for girls who were stunk at cheerleading) and they weighed me at 111. This is her exct words"i think you are ugly,well you have a pretty face and pretty hair but........." then she looked down at my body, then she said "i dont know what i am saying" then i got up with my crutches and said "well, i do." I never spoke to her again.But the problem is i am not overweight and she called me ugly. I am 5'4 111 pounds well i gained 7 but that does not matter,i am toned cause i have been doing cheerleading for 6 years, and i have 12 percent body fat, and i am 13. But what really made me mad is becasue she is overweight and dissporporantional. She was weighed at 149 and she is 4'11 and a month older than me. Not to mechin she is blotaed every day and she is flabby, dont forget ugly. I know that sounds horrible to say but i is all true. I ust want to know what she was thinking when she said that.

Answer 1

I'm not sure what your question is but your right about something is wrong with her.  She is very insecure because of the way she looks so she tries to call other people ugly including you.  If you don't want to be her friend you might just have to tell her so.  Just tell her that friendship takes a lot of time and committment and you don't feel you need any other relationships.  

You know you are not overweight and so do I.   She has a lot of growing up to do including working on her weight problem.  Of course it wasn't right for her to say what she did and what you said about her is just the facts that you see.  Don't worry about it.  You will see that there will always be people like this and you need to stay away from people that are so insecure.  You need to focus on good things and not be caught up into her problems.  However, if you are the type that likes to be a "caregiver" then know that about yourself and choose who you want to be and how you want to respond to people.

Good Luck!  I only have one very good friend because I don't like dealing with issues others have.

Answer 2

She was probably just being mean because she doesn't feel good about herself. It probably makes her feel better to point out problems with other people. This could also be why she "invites herself over" to other people's houses, and calls people stupid. Usually people who are uncomfortable in their own body make it a point to put other people down. That's just how it works.

If you're okay with you, then you're fine. From the way you've described yourself you're not overweight.

Just let it go and stay away from her. She's spent so much time trying to convince herself that she's great and everyone loves her that she'll act like that for a very long time, if not forever. Some people just don't have good personalities.