Was this a form of control?

Question

Ok I woke up this morning to my bf giving me 0ra1 s*x in my sleep. Me personally I didn’t mind I was very pleased, and he didn’t ask for anything in return. It was like the perfect happy pill to keep me unstressed at work.

my female friends at work noticed how smiley I’ve been all day when they asked me why, I couldn’t help but brag about this morning. And we laughed about it then after lunch one of my friends took me to the side and said that him doing that is a form of him trying to gain control over me, and him claiming my body as his, and how him just taking it in my sleep there is no telling what else he’ll do. To sum it up what did was a power move. Even though I told her whatever, I’ve really been thinking about what she said.

So what are your thoughts? Is what she’s saying just a load of B.S.

Answer 1

Ignore your girlfriend and what she says, because if your boyfriend is going to control you or gain control, you'll soon know as these sort of people get a lot worse and they try to get you to stop working and stop having friends full stop, so unless you see things like this occurring, you have nothing to worry about. It really sounds like a touch of jealousy to me.

Answer 2

Quit telling your co-workers about your husband eating your p*ssy & you won't have to worry about their opinions.  Be professional for F's sake.  

Answer 3

she sounds like she has men/relationship issues, ignore her.

Answer 4

signs of rape..non consenual  s*x..if he continues, he will just go for intercourse without your consent..try placing some boundaries with him

Answer 5

LOL No that girl was jealous.

Answer 6

Girl dont listen to her, shes just jealous.

He wanted to do it, you liked it, end of story.

I pity her, what a drama queen.  Bet shes single.....lol

Answer 7

He and you both had a ton of fun! Enjoy each minute. The lady is jealous no one will even look at her naked b***s.

Answer 8

If you feel in control of your life and senses.. then hes not controlling you..

Yea to spontenaity in bed.. and men who know the pleasures of.. you know what!

What is there to complain about..? You have jealous girlfriends.. they WISH their old men did them...

Answer 9

Yes--a dump truck full of BS.  He pleasured you without asking for anything in return and put you into a great mood until that dipsh!t spoiled it for you. Enjoy it for what it is, and don't let her ruin your day again.    

Answer 10

Ignore your girlfriends and don't look a gift horse in the mouth!

Answer 11

Your friend is an idot and is probably just jealous because she either isn't getting any or is a prude.  Enjoy yourself.

Answer 12

hun that is the biggest crock of BS there ever was..think of it like this..

if the table was turned and you woke him up that way and put the cloud nine smile on his face would it be because you were trying to control him? don't think so. its not control its a way a man likes to please his woman mine does it to me all the time... and sometimes me to him its fun and they enjoy it. here is the biggest give away he did not ask for anything in return and that is a rarity in itself LOL enjoy it don't let your friends get ya down they are prob not getting any is why they said that. don't worry about it

Answer 13

Being woken up to being given oral is the best way i can think of, sounds like your friend is jealous

Answer 14

Tell your friend to get a man and a life.  it's her thoughts like this one that is keeping her single.  If you enjoyed it, and sounds like you did, then go with it.  Listen to your own heart and mind!

Answer 15

Your co-worker is just jealous and a prude.  

Go for it, enjoy yourself.  Reverse the situation.  What if you woke up, and really felt like pleasuring your bf?  Are you doing it to control him, or because you wanted to do it and see his reaction?  

Answer 16

Unless you feel it was a power move....she is full of BS.....if you are ok with him pleasing you as you sleep....then don't worry about it....If he was on some power trip....he doesn't need for you to be asleep to obtain it.....this is something you would know by his actions when he is awake...

Answer 17

Yeah, that's it. some jealeous B888tch she is... that;s no friend.