Was this a form of control ?

Question

Ok I woke up this morning to my bf giving me 0ra1 s*x in my sleep. Me personally I didn’t mind I was very pleased, and he didn’t ask for anything in return. It was like the perfect happy pill to keep me unstressed at work.

my female friends at work noticed how smiley I’ve been all day when they asked me why, I couldn’t help but brag about this morning. And we laughed about it then after lunch one of my friends took me to the side and said that him doing that is a form of him trying to gain control over me, and him claiming my body as his, and how him just taking it in my sleep there is no telling what else he’ll do. To sum it up what did was a power move. Even though I told her whatever, I’ve really been thinking about what she said.

So what are your thoughts? Is what she’s saying just a load of B.S.

Answer 1

It made you happy, and your bf did not ask for anything in return. If anything he is giving something up.  This woman sounds insecure or possibly manipulative. But she is probably jealous more than anything else. Therefore, I wouldn't listen to "Dr Freud". So don't over analyze the situation and continue to enjoy yourself.

Answer 2

she is just jealous because 1) your in a great mood and 2) your man can please you.

just forget about what she said and try to get back to your good mood.

but just think, maybe he will ask you for something later that you dont really wanna do and hes gonna say "well, remember this morning" or the other day (whenever he does decide to pull out that card. just pay attention to how often he does it and how he acts after ward

if it was a one time thing, dont worry about it.

Answer 3

I dont think it is a form of control

Answer 4

Why are you even asking???? I would give anything for a man like that.

Answer 5

She's sooooo jealous.

Answer 6

Are you complaining about feeling good>They envy you> And a word to the wise if you don't want them hitting on your BF than keep your romance to yourself that's how girl & guys lose there mates by bragging about them> Just my thought>

Answer 7

she obviously is jealous of what you have or had this morning .. if the table was turned would you be trying to control him  by  waking him up like that ?  

Answer 8

That "friend" is no friend at all.  What she said is complete bullsh*t.  I've done that for my girlfriends for years.  No way did I, nor do I,want to "control" them or demonstrate "power" over them.  I know they'll enjoy and appreciate it.

Answer 9

I think he was just showing you he cares!  I mean, seriously, what an awesome guy!  If you enjoyed it, then go with it!  If it disturbed you in any way, then you have a problem.  Sounds like you're friend is jealous and trying to start problems.  Lose her; keep the guy!

Answer 10

If you don't mind then no sexual abuse happened, maybe had he forcefully riped off your clothes and didn't want to but it is more likely jealously.