Was this cruel of my mum (child favouritism)?

Question

My mum recently made a facebook and added 3 pics of me and my two sisters. The 1st one was of me, she added the worst pic of me & underneath she wrote "Look what the dog brought home." She added a pic of my 2nd sis dressed in shorts & a small top (the middle daughter) and wrote "does this child of mine ever wear any clothes".......and lastly she adds a pic of my older sis looking gorgous with the caption "My eldest. simply beautiful"

I kinda feel hurt, but at the same time I think its just her sense of humor or she could be serious...What do u think?

Answer 1

She's serious. And your ugly.  

Answer 2

That was not nice at all for your Mom to put that under your picture..You should talk to her about it! let her know that it hurt you and tell her to change it...

Answer 3

If it were me, I;d feel offended too, but only you know your Mum - is this what her sense of humour is like normally?  If so, then you should let her know that you would like her to remove the picture and challenge her to put a nice one in it's place and say something nice!

Do you feel your Mum usually plays favourites?  If she does, then a bigger discussion needs to be had because it could be that she is unaware or her actions and would want to know if you were feeling hurt.  If she is doing it intentionally then it is very immatuer and maybe you could speak to another relative to see if they can work with her on resolving this as it is not healthy for a family.

So to answer your question - is it cruel - well it is certainly inappropriate but let's giuve her the benefit of the doubt that she just has a warped sense of humour and will change the photos when you point it out to her.

Answer 4

I'm sorry for you because I'm sure it does hurt a lot but your mom is acting inappropriately.  Perhaps her intentions are not to be mean and like you said maybe she's attempting to make a joke but it is humiliating to you and she should stop immediately.

She is not acting like a nice, loving mother.  She's acting like an immature child.  And I'm sorry to say this to you because she's you mom and I'm sure you love her but it just makes me furious when parents berate their kids to get a few laughs.  They have no idea the kind of psychological damage they create.

I wish you the best and hopefully your mom will re-evaluate her decisions and apologize to you.  

Answer 5

That's kind-of messed up.  She's your mom, so I sincerely doubt she was intentionally trying to hurt you, but I totally understand why that would bother you.  If it was me, I would tell my mother (in a nice way) that it hurt me, and ask that she take it down.  

Answer 6

She is kidding.. you don't believe she would talk bad about you and your middle sister in a bad way and then talk about her beautiful eldest daughter.. she is having a joke on all of you .. the way she put it in facebook clearly shows me that is her sense of humour. In reality she loves all 3 of you the same and has no favourites.. she is kidding you on purpose...  her way of being funny.. x*x She makes your middle sister look like a tramp wearing skimpy clothes and you bedraggled so I doubt that she would go against you and your middle sister and favour the eldest so openly.. come on.. she's kidding you and just has a strange sense of humour... xx

Answer 7

You have a creative mother. While you do not like it, try to talk to her. Best wishes

Answer 8

if my mom did that i would be hurt. u should tell her how u feel

Answer 9

It could be a joke, but it sounds like favoritism. You should probably talk to her about it and tell her how you feel.

~Lexi~