Was this overly mean? Will people think I'm a *****?

Question

This girl stalks me so much and i hate her because she is very stuck up and can be mean and much more.

I tried everything, hinting, trying to drift away, and finding her new friends but she is clueless.

So my friend (she also stalks) just said to her "can you stop following us?"

And I felt soo bad because I knew if i comforted her she would think I still like her and would just stalk me. So I just stood there next to my friend..

My other friend said that was mean of me when I told her what happened and she said it looks like she was walking away to cry and now i feel even more guilty because she had no other friends.

but i mean i can't just be nice and keep letting me stalk her because i really don't like her and can't have her hanging out with me. I mean she used to find out about my plans and stalk me to the mall

Answer 1

she sounds defensive (being mean) because she has no friends.

introduce her to people more like her. or someone else who doesn't have friends.

maybe they'll be good for each other.

Answer 2

Well I think she's being alittle to attached.  She stalks you hoping that you still like her or something like that i'm sure.  If you don't want to hang out with her, or be her friend telling her that either way its gonna hurt.  But apparently she's certainly not the one for you and she needs to let go and except that.  So just know its going to hurt...but be nice to her. Don't drop her off the deep end yeah your not friends and you don't hang out with her but don't let other kids beat on her and be there for her when she needs just a friend.  if that makes since.  Good luck!

Answer 3

The Golden Rule is "Treat people the way you would like to be treated."

That will help you to not ever have to feel guilty about how you treat another person.

Answer 4

that was mean.. and what you did wasn't being a friend. If they spend to much time around you tell them. look i need sometime alone or with my other friends it will hurt them but it will be the truth. if she has no other friends maybe you should be that one friend and let her know why. Life is about the people we reach out to and make lives better.  

Answer 5

You probably just feel bad about the way the situation was handled.

+ Also, perhaps she doesn't stalk you as such, as that would be alot more serious. But honestly, try and get to know her a bit more for about 2 weeks - trust me, i had a follower once, and 1 month down the line, me and her were best mates since - but if you really don't like her, then...I'm not sure. Introduce her to other mates. Or you could maybe try, "I said i'd hang out with her and just her today" so you can leave the stalker girl.

I think this girl seems very insecure, and doesnt make friends well, maybe thats why she feels you've been nice to her and stuff. She seems desperate. Get her into extra curricular stuff. she may make new mates there. Erm...Maybe if she follows you to the mall again, and asks you to hang out and shop together, maybe try, "Sorry, can't...im with my mum, she's taken me and (whoever) shopping."

Eventually, it may take time, but she may seem to get it. If not, then I suppose you've either gotta be mean or tell someone at school.