Was this rude, or am I just uptight?

Question

My parents are currently going through a divorce, and my dad came over last weekend to get some furniture that belonged to him. Well, one of the pieces that he took was the chair that my piano teacher sits on while she teaches me. When she came over Monday, she demanded where her chair was. I replied that my dad had taken it, and she said, "Oh. He's just taking everything, now isn't he?" And then she LAUGHED in my face!

It made me sad because I'm having a tough time through this, and I think it was an inappropriate comment. Was it?

Answer 1

Well, it was not her place to make such comment. She went way out of line with that one. Next time you see her, explain exactly how she made you feel with that comment. Remember, you're paying her, your sorta the employer and shes the employee... Maybe you should remind her of that... BTW, I'm sorry to hear of your parents break up...  

Answer 2

yess it was.

i don't blame you.

i would of gotten sad too even mad at her for saying that.

i can't believe you didn't do anything i would of said something back to her.

but she sounds like she's teasing you or something.

Answer 3

you are probably feeling a bit sensitive at the moment but your teacher was extremely rude. it is none of her business and you should tell her to keep her comments about your lessons and not on your private life. divorce isnt easy for anyone and she is very incensitive to make a joke about it

Answer 4

she was probbally trying to be funny dont take it personal she didnt know you were having a tough time

Answer 5

Just view it as one of those comments someone makes without thinking and forget about it.

She's probably like me - one who speaks before engaging her brain at times.  I somethimes come out with inappropriate comments and afterwards think 's**t, I shouldn't have said that'......and for all we know, she might have been thinking something along those lines later on that day when she realised what she'd said (I know I would have been if it was me who'd said it).  

But you're the best judge of her character - if she's outspoken all the time then she might just be a bit snidey like that constantly, but if she's not really like that usually then she might have just said it without thinking.

She also could have said it to try and make you laugh and it just came out wrong

Answer 6

She was insensitive and if you feel the need mention to her how this whole thing hurts and her comment the other day hurt too.  But if you forgive her because maybe she was nervous then don't bring it up

Answer 7

That was WAYY inappropriate; I would be hurt too. My land, if one of my students were going through that, I would never even think about doing such a thing.

Though this time may be extraordinarily hard, I hope you find comfort and peace.

Answer 8

Your piano teacher has more than likely had a bad divorce (or more) but that doesn't excuse her poor comment. She is a mean person. remember, people can only hurt us if we allow them to.

She is just a bitter and nasty person, and that is not your problem

Answer 9

Yes, she sounds like a real tool. She had no right laughing in your face about something serious like that. I'm sorry that you have had to go through more grief on top of what you already have. I hope everything looks up.

Answer 10

that was definitely not appropriate. Your teacher should be more sensitive to your feelings, tell her how she hurt your feelings.

Answer 11

Yeah, it was inappropriate.  Your piano teacher was being unprofessional.  She shouldn't comment on the personal affairs of her students.

That said, it wasn't the worst thing in the world either.  Yes, it was unprofessional.  However, I think you should try to forget it and move forward with your student/teacher relationship.  But if she makes another inappropriate comment, I think you should calmly and rationally tell her that her comment was out of line and that you would appreciate it if she would kindly refrain from discussing your personal matters during lessons.  

Answer 12

sounded careless and inappropriate but i don't think she meant to offend you. chances are she spoke and didn't think about its actions before it came out of her mouth.  

Answer 13

yes,it was an inappropriate comment. it is none of your piano teachers business about your parents divorce or what furniture she takes. you should let her go on account of her inappropriate behavior

Answer 14

It's okay..it was just a spontaneous sarcastic kinda statement....she was just missing her chair and maybe felt a bit hurt by it not being there. Let it go and forget about that.

I am really very very sorry for what you are going through in life. Please hang in there, and know that things happen for the best. It will get better. Stay strong.  

Answer 15

i don't think it was. am sure she didn't mean to offend you.

sometimes when we go through stuff like that, we are so hurt that anything people say we take it in a bad way.

am sorry about your parents btw you'll be fine :)

Answer 16

It depends on WHY she said it. Did you say your parents were getting a divorce BEFORE she said it? If so, she was embarrassed, and  blurted out the first thing she thought of. If she DIDN'T know, then she didn't understand WHY he took the chair, and tried to make a joke out of it.

In any case, you should have told her she was being inappropriate [or callus] with her remarks, and why. You will have to buy another chair if you want to continue taking lessons, but I would get a different piano teacher... she definitely over stepped her boundaries.

Answer 17

It was inappropriate. She may have just been trying to lighten the mood, but she missed her mark if she was.

Answer 18

your piano sounds like a very mean person.

she is the rude one!

Answer 19

it is a little inconsiderate of your feelings however I don't think she meant to be cruel, she probably felt awkward and tried to make light of the situation. Keep talking to both your mum and dad they are both important to you.

Answer 20

No, I think she was just trying to make the situation less uncomfortable when she realized her faux pas.  I don't think she laughed in your face she was probably embarrassed that she asked you about the chair.  A stupid remark and laughing was probaly her way of putting some distance between the gravity of the situation.  You do have my sympathy though.  Adults don't seem to know or remember how painful divorce is for children.