Was this the right way to correct her?

Question

I met a girl on hear that I really like. She really likes me also. We chat everyday for nearly two hours,....I care about her. But she told me that she prays and everything, but she doesn't wear hijab. I ignored it for a while, but something told me that I should tell her she should wear it. So at the end of one of our conversations...I told her like this..

"hey, I have something to tell you".....but you r going to be very upset...

then I said: I always wanted to tell you that not wearing hijab is haram...was I right in telling her this. She wasn't upset afterwords..she just had to leae at the moment..so this conversation is to be continued

Answer 1

it doesn't matter whether you are right to correct her or not the point is you wanted to tell her and you did. you don't really care what her feelings would have been after you told her that. all you know is in your heart you felt like you were doing the right thing. i am not very educated on your customs so i can't say whether you should or should not have. maybe you should have asked her why she chooses not to wear a hijab and get a better understanding of where she's coming from. in turn she would get a better understanding on your feelins about the hijab as well.

Answer 2

you did the right thing and you told her in a good way...:)

Answer 3

As we study each others cultural history, we learn that women were covering their hair before the advent of Al-Islam, so the Hijab, which is Arabic, and its meaning is (to cover) is nothing new in human society.

So in Islam the Hijab is seen as a Religious culture, and as a way-of-life, for many Muslim women, which is rightly so, but it was never meant to say that a Muslim woman who does not (cover her hair), in the society, is not a Muslim, but these same sisters are knowledgeable of Islam's Religious practice of coving her hair for Salat!

Nor does Allah say in the Qur'an, that a believing woman who do not (cover her hair), or wear the Hijab is doing Evil or she is not Muslim.

G-d says: " Let there be no compulsion in religion:" This means that we cannot make anyone do anything nor wear or not wear the Hijab.

Allah goes on to say in this same Ayat, "Truth stands out clear from Error: whoever rejects Evil and believes in Allah hath grasped the most trustworthy handhold, that never breaks, and Allah heareth and knoweth all things."

There are times when we get overwhelm by our own Religious knowledge, and that we loss sight of the fact that Allah is the all (Knowing One), and that the person whom we are rejecting, just may be the right person that Allah has sent to us to humble our spirit.

G-d says: "And they have been commanded no more than this: to worship Allah, offering Him sincere devotion, being True (in faith); to establish regular Prayer; and to practice regular Charity; and that is the Religion Right and Straight."

Answer 4

well if it is haram don't you think she knows and if she feels comfy why shouldn't you let her be... it's none of your business.. you're just chatting

Answer 5

It depends which denomination of Islam she follows, there are many from what I know of the religion. You have no right to tell her what to do because she has free will and if she prays and so on, isn't she following the religion? I knew some Turkish female Muslims once and they didn't wear the Hijab but they were still Muslim. Does it matter if you both love each other? Shouldn't love come first and the rest of it later? If you love someone, it should be unconditional shouldn't it?

Answer 6

As Salaam to you all,

A Muslim should correct another Muslim with kindness and understanding that there is no compulsion within our religion.

However, a true Muslim man would not get into conversation with a Muslim woman, except to answer a particular question. By your own statements you have committed a sin and built up feelings for her. Maybe you think about her when you are not talking to each other on the computer. Maybe you dream of her and she of you, which is against what we believe that we should do.

Seperation is the key word, unless you are both of age to marry and you make contact with her guardians to ask for her hand but expect a rejection due to culture,or age. The harm that will come to both of you is dependant on her family and yours but more so from Allah (SWT).

If you were a good Muslim this would have never happened, nor would you have plastered this message for all to see. Think before you act in future.

Seek forgiveness from her and from Allah (SWT) for what you have done wrong.

Wa salaam.

Answer 7

I am not a part of your religion, but from what I understand of it, hijab is a personal decision. So it is her choice whether or not to wear it, and you don't have the right to "correct her" or tell her that she has to wear it. If you try to tell her what to do you will probably only cause her to resent you.

However, you do have the choice of whether or not you want to be associated with her. If the two of you are going to have a healthy relationship you need to love her for who she is instead of trying to change her. If you can't accept that she doesn't wear hijab, then she is not the right person for you.

Good luck.

Answer 8

no you werent wrong. you were advising her, it just shows you care. and its not like you were forcing her, or saying if she doesnt wear it, you wont talk to her anymore.

Answer 9

Well she might not understand hijab properly.  And if she doesn't she might start wearing it wrong.  Like all trendy and obnoxious and vain-like.

Answer 10

its is a muslims job to tell other muslims when they are doing wrong other wise allah will ask you why didnt you, so yes you did right brother

after you tell her its up to her no one can force her but you did your part

Answer 11

If I was her I would of told you to back off, because its her choice what she wants to believe in and how she wants to believe in it. If she had to leave at that momnet, obviously she was not happy about it.

Answer 12

Brother, I think it was really good you told her. Someone actually told me a couple months ago, and that advise is still in my head and will always be. If she's a good muslim than she will definitly not get upset and take in consideration what you said. For all you know if she really does start wearing hijab you will get much sawab.You did the right thing to tell her, but if she stilll objects...than its her problem with herself and Allah (SWT).

Answer 13

its her choice what she wears.

Answer 14

You have NO RIGHT WHATSOEVER to correct another human being on a religious matter.

Religion, and religious interpretations , are personal.

Men and women are equal.  Their abilities to think and reason are equal.

For example, when birth control pills were first available in the 1960s, some Catholic couple used them, secretly, perhaps.   If they still considered themselves true Catholics, no one has the right to complain.  If they felt that god would understand, no one has the right to criticize.

So if a woman says that she is a good Muslim, and that wearing a hijab is not required to be a good Muslim, then her interpretation is the only thing that matters.  If another person doesn't like the woman's interpretation, they can walk away.

Answer 15

Dear,

In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

The minute she's your wife, it's your duty to make sure she follow what you want according to the Islamic laws. Therefore wait for the time Insya-Allah.

Than you.

Answer 16

I don't see any wrong as long as you agree that you will grow a full length beard, wear a mosque hat more than often and work 24/7 while she blows your money on anything she wants?

Not fair?

Well according to the Quran and Authentic Hadiths it is.

Answer 17

Yup, you are right. You ca also quote some quranic verses to convince her.

BTW, chatting secretly with a girl is not allowed.

Answer 18

U're having an internet affair with the girl and telling her to wear a hijab? LOL!

Answer 19

I think the conversation might be over.  Progressive is a word she may hold dear.