Wat should i do about my 12 year old daughter?

Question

she takes my neck massager a lot and denies it, should i punish her? how?

Answer 1

why? what does she do with it??

Answer 2

Threaten her. Then hide it from her!!

EDIT: hmm.. Ok well then i would suggest get her,her own. and try to find out WHY and HOW shes using it!

Answer 3

hide it from her.

Answer 4

buy her a vibrator

Answer 5

I am assuming she is using this massager in a sexual way.  If I was you, I would purchase one for her own use and would not point out that you know she isn't using it on her neck.  She is twelve and experimenting with her body.  Be greatful she isn't having some boy do it for her.

I don't know how you would feel about being called Grandma just yet.  

Then, later, not in the same conversation have the s*x talk with her.  Explain to her that her body is changing and why she is feeling the way she is feeling.

For God's sakes don't punish her!  She will be in therapy for years.

Answer 6

Beat her *** next time she does it. You're her mother and you've asked her more than once not to do something and she does it anyway. Cut her privelages until she doesn't have anything to do. Then I bet she'll leave it alone.

I don't want to be perverted but maybe she's using it to m********e. I started masterbating around 12 (tmi. lol!). Maybe the vibrations from the massager arouse her. You never know.

Answer 7

why would you punish her??? its not like shes having s*x. just buy her one. act stupid like you dont know what shes doing with it. its not that big of a deal.

Answer 8

Hey I don't blame her those things feel pretty good.  but just tell her that you aint stupid and you know she's lying and that she shouldn't do that or just aimlessly take your stuff, but it's okay if she asks. Maybe take her off the phone or something for the night if it continues.

Answer 9

don't hide it...put ur foot down! u don't have to punish ur children to put them in their place.  WHat happened to the good ole days when kids had respect and only needed a reminder once and again about who was the boss???

i'm not saying knock her lights out, but GOODNESS she's twelve! ur her parent, make her straighten up and fly right! let her know that lying is not okay and that she shouldn't be taking ur things with out asking, and if ur think she's using it as a makeshift "toy" let her know u know....as long as she thinks ur naive she'll only keep using it!

Answer 10

If her neck hurts buy her,her own neck massager

Answer 11

Oh yes, take away everything until she has nothing left to do. That will solve the problem of her doing something.

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right.

Before you go scarring your daughter for life, explain to her that as a fellow woman you understand what she's on about. Then buy her her own (if her neck actually hurts), or, as some have suggested, a legitimate vibrator (if that's what she's using it for).

After all, at 13 her budding s*x drive is probably pretty strong. Wouldn't you rather she take it out on something made of plastic than something made of flesh? Teach her not to be afraid of herself.

Answer 12

If you punish her you may scar her for life.

Answer 13

i say let her do her own thing BUT DEFINATLY NOT WITH UR THINGS just get her her own things, i say just ask her what she wants in the massager category and maybe she will open up to u but make shure u dont get mad at her or "disappointed" at her if u find out what she is doing with it is disappointing to u just go and buy here something she might want when she opens up to u. just dont hold her back from doing it or she will rebel and do something REALLY stupid

Answer 14

Neck massager ? hummm wonder what she is doing with that.

Whats the big deal anyway ? You should try living with my 11year old daughter if thats all she did to me then I would be praising the Lord.