Way from home?

Question

How big of an issue would you find it if your partner is away from home for long periods of time, and cant tell you when it will be?

Answer 1

I havent been in that situation yet Barend, but am slwoly heading there. I'm not sure how I'll be able to deal with it, its rather upsetting at times. He'll be travelling as there are so many projects lined up for him. The money is good and can give us the security we need, but whats the use if you cant enjoy it with your partner who's busy making it than enjoying it? What happens when his son doesnt recognise him anymore? I dont think I'm ready to deal with yet until it becomes a reality.... its currently an issue, but if it makes him happy, what can I do but to be oblige?

Answer 2

Fairly big. I like to know what is going on so that I can plan my life.

Answer 3

Barend you get used to it it is a decison and a choice you make, my husband is away all the time, and I used to get so upset when the kids were younger, because I had a baby that cried all night long a 5 year old daughter and a very hard, demanding job. I used to sit at 3 in the morning trying to prepare for court the next day with a screaming baby on my lap, whilst he is all over the world, sleeping nicely in his hotel bed, seeing nice things, meeting interesting people......everything used to go wrong when he wa away, my car broke down, the kids got sick, my daughter broke her arm, geyser broke, etc. etc. you adapt, i resigned and started my own practise, scaled down, the kids got bigger, the money he makes made it worth the while, so you have to adapt and accept it...or move out. That is life. I have cancelled so many things in my life because of his business, nothing new to me for him to say I am going next week for 2 weeks to europe. He nearly missed his sons birth.

Answer 4

Huge. I don't hide anything and don't expect her too, either.

Answer 5

I would be peeved off because it would be nice to plan things but if that is his job and pays for the mortgage then I would just have to accept it.

Answer 6

I'm with cakes. It would irritate me intensely not knowing what's happening next. I like to plan everything ahead.

Answer 7

I'm faced with that situation quite a few time. But lucky my partner respects me enough and trusts me. If he were in the same situation I would only want whats best for him. .

Answer 8

I imagine that I entered the relationship knowing that that would be one of the criteria. I would accept it, adapt to it and love him all the more each time he arrives home. Being away does not mean loss of contact.