We're going off of Birth Control. . . . . .?

Question

My husband and I have agreed that I am going off of birth control pills because they make me sick. He knows that I want children very badly and when we got married in October of 2006 he said he wanted to wait about 2 years to have kids, I only wanted to wait one but I have now waited almost 2. Even though I'm going off the pill and we are closer to his time frame he still makes comments about not wanting kids yet, what should I do?

Answer 1

I would discuss this with him. Just ask him straight out when he wants children. It's far better to conceive when both partners are willingly wishing to.

Answer 2

You're going off birth control because it makes you sick? Trust me, being pregnant will make you 1,000 times more sick then being on the pill. Anyway, depending on how long you've been on the pill, it will take awhile for you to get pregnant after stopping it. Maybe even a few years. I was on the pill for 10 years and it took me 4 years to get pregnant.

Answer 3

You should talk to him about why specifically he doesn't want kids yet. If it's money, rarely are people ever completely financially ready to have kids.  There could be a multitude of other reasons but you can't work through resolving them if he won't honestly tell you why.   My husband said that for years until he finally admitted he was just really worried he wasn't going to be a good dad.  He didn't have a good role model in his dad, I didn't in my dad either.  We got to know some other couples of child bearing age and he had the opportunity to talk to those guys on occasion about what was intimidating him and got to the point that he was really excited to be a dad.  That's just one reason it could be.  Find out why your husband doesn't want them yet and start there.

Answer 4

Hello

                You need to have a talk with your

husband, why is he saying he doesn't want

any children Yet? If he's waiting for the perfect time, it will never come. You'll always need more money,time bigger house, whatever.

                    But I wouldn't get pregnant by

accident, if you know what I mean, he'll just resent you and the baby. You need to tell him why you want and baby and how your  

feeling about wanting a baby. In turn let him

tell you his reasons and then take it from there.

                       I had 3 wonderful sons and it all went by to quickly. I wish I had more children. It is the most wonderful thing in the world. And when he sees the face of his child, it's just an unbelievable feeling.

Good Luck Stay Strong, but don't make it your choice. The choice has to be made by both of you.

Irisheyes