We're in love but religion and politics are separating us...?

Question

...first thing to say: I'm not American, I'm from Northern Ireland. I'm writing on the American yahoo answers because writing on the UK one is too risky.

Some days ago I gave my first kiss to a girl and we're in love like bloody h**l. We are both 16. But we cannot see each other too much, and we're afraid. Very afraid, for one reason:

I am working-class Catholic and she is a Protestant. If her father knew what is going on he would probably beat up her and kill me. If my buddies knew that, they'd call me a traitor. By God, I passed me entire life throwing rocks and swearing against the Prots and the Brits, getting beaten up and arrested by huns and fighting those who would take as their privilege what could only be got and held by the decimation of a race. That war is a thousand years old and more.. And know I fall in love with a WASP. And she's the most awesome girl you could imagine.

We're desperate. This war has been raging on for ages.

Why must we be separated by it?

Please help.

Answer 1

It is obvious to me that you are a intelligent young man, and aware that the circumstances you were "unlucky" to be born into is nothing more the irrational bigotry. Would hope that your generation will be the one that confronts this, and creates a different world. One that excepts all  human beings, and who will, and can create a better world for the coming generations, by accepting that fact, and working together.

It is possible that this "forbidden love", will be the impetuous for you to become educated, and become a driving force in changing the present situation.

Answer 2

What about telling "us" first Dan? Anyway... what's the problem: does her father think that there are only Prots around here? I mean, i think he's not that stupid to think that, so he must already know that her daughter could go out with a boy with different religious views of his. So just try to cheer up Dan and think how beautiful life is when you're in love!

Ciao!

Answer 3

If at the age of 16 you are in Love then I think for you to understand what love is and how you can endure many things life can throw at you with its power, then give this relationship time to prove itself to those involved. If it is as I believe it is  you cannot expect to ever get together, you may have to consider the alternative of leaving the area when you are well prepared. The possibility of your love not being strong enough to last is very real . Infatuation is more likely what you are feeling so give it some time and when the time is right make your move, demand your love be recognized or just leave. Stupid waring world

Answer 4

You two should discuss your religious beliefs. The conflict between Catholics and Protestants is hypocritical. Both religions are supposed to be ONE WITH CHRIST. That is from the Bible that both Catholics and Protestants read. You should read for yourself what the Bible says. Read the four gospels in the New Testament and hear what Christ Jesus says. He says so much about love. That's what religion is supposed to be about. The Protestant movement started because someone actually read the Bible for themselves and discovered the truth. This does not by any means say that Protestants are any better then Catholics. What it boils down to is the behavior as a CHRISTIAN. If her father would "beat her and kill you" and if your buddies were to label you as a traitor are either of them CHRISTAINS?

Catholics and Protestants as well as any other religious people should not even protest, they should by no means claim to be a Christian if they are going to resent the other. Jesus said to love one another!

The real dilemma I see is how her father would react. Are your buddies worth more than her? If not, then discuss with her that you may be interested in learning about her faith and have her tell her father that she met someone that wants to talk about religion. He doesn;t have to know that you two are in love, just that you are interested in hearing more and see where that leads.

I am a Seventh-Day Adventist and as a Christian I would only become involved with someone that puts our Savior above all. If I met a Catholic and found interest in her I would not dismiss the idea of pursuing her but I would hold firm to my belief and would not change my religion. If she would not be open to the idea of her becoming an Adventist – after great discussion of why I believe my religion is in more accordance to the Word of God, then there would be no future for us.

So, to conclude, you both need to discuss this in great detail. It is YOUR future, not your buddies or her fathers.

Good luck and God Bless.

“Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth [God’s word is truth] so that you have sincere love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from the heart.” 1 Peter 1:22

Answer 5

accept eahcother's views and respect her father's judgement if he doesn't want her around you DON'T IGNORE HIM i learned this in fifth grade with a really pretty girl and i never saw her again after i snuck out and met her after her father told her not to go near me.

Answer 6

I'm heartbroken for you but I can't help you. I'm so sorry, and I hope you reach a decision. =) good luck.