We've been together for 10 years?

Question

And love each other a great deal. The s*x is great, the mutual respect for each others space it's the perfect relationship...but..all our friends are getting or have gotten married.He and I never discussed marriage, when we got together back in college, it was the last thing in our minds. But now I would like the option, but he says I am changing the rules. We never said we would get married, that is true, but we never said we wouldn't. We just never talked about it.

Any advice on how to deal with this subject.

Answer 1

yea it makes sense and if you have been together for that long it should be at leats a possibilty try and give hints and maybe h**l get the idea

Answer 2

Wow, and you ladies always say we men are clueless, but here is the thing, the man already know the answer will be no. With him asking you,you'll get a high, such a nice feeling, but your answer will give him a low, and not so nice a feeling. Is this fair? Is this equal? Your relationship should be about the happiness of both of you, not at the expense of one.

One Love.  

Answer 3

Its obvious you want to get married after being together for so long and because all of your friends are. but do you want to because you see all of your friends planning weddings or because you want to spend the rest of your life with your boyfriend?

Answer 4

i know a couple who've been together for 8 years and they've talked about but its not like they're going to do it anytime soon, it was just so they know where they're going and when the best time is for them and what to expect in the coming years

just tell him that if you talk about it then you'll both know the game plan, discuss the best time for it so that in the future you're not going to wonder if the relationship is pointless. Girls want to know that a relationship is going somewhere. I know another couple that, after his military service for another 3 years, he plans on asking her or at least thats the best time. Just because they talked about I doesn't mean they were going to do it anytime soon. Just remind him of that, that its just a talk.

Answer 5

if you have been dating for that long you should be able to talk about without any problems just be true to your self and im sure he has thought about marriage one time or another

Answer 6

awww how romantic

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Answer 7

Yes it makes sense.. you want to see if he is commited to ur relationship. If you two have been together for ten yrs then i would think he would want to marry you.. unless he's been cheating on you or he's just with you to waste time until he finds someone else