We've split up because of his cheating and his ex?

Question

Iv just had a massive argument with my boyfriend takin all of my stuff and left. I left because his ex txted him an he txt her back saying stuff like lol yeah i like that band too bla bla. But he cheated with his ex 6 months ago after a very very minipulating hand on her behalf she minipulated him an his whole family like stayin over when we werent there.. But i could see what she was doing an i told him an he said i was crazy. 2 weeks later they slept together. I took him back an told him if he ever spoke to her again thats

it an i stuck to that by walking out today, after a big screaming match. But he kept saying your crazy an paraniod an that he wanted to be with me an not her but still he said he would not stop texting her even though he seen i was very very upset by the fact she is worming her way back in. I have tryed very hard to get over what he did. They were together 6 years an me an him just over a year. For 6 months iv tryed so so hard to foget her an him but i always new she would try again. I love him but dont trust him and he says he loves me. So have i made the right choice by leaving today?

Any help would mean so much right now.

Answer 1

Mama why do you second guess yourself so??? Do you not love you? Do you not look in the mirror and say "Wow, any man would be lucky to have me!"

Maybe it's time you did. Once you learn to love and respect yourself then others will too. Monkey see Monkey do.

Forget about his ex (is she really worth all the time and energy you invest in her?) Worry about YOU. Think about it, why does he hold on to this relationship? Do they have children together? If they do, you have to deal with it, honestly sweetie because cases like these are common. Think, we did they spit up? Have you ever asked her? I mean if she calls your man, why? What is he telling her?

Don't do this to yourself girl. Love don't pay the bills or put food in your mouth. Love is a gift. If this is the love you are looking for then continue to second guess yourself and keep taking him back- just don't cry about it or complain- you CHOOSE to be there.

You are worth it! You deserve to be treated with respect! You deserve to be loved the way you love! You ARE worth it!

Answer 2

Boyfriend needs to make a clean break from his ex. Doesn't matter that they dated for 6 years and had a history.  

He also needs to tell his family that he has made that clean break and that he is with you now and that they should respect  this new relationship and you.  If he wants to talk, spell things out for him.  Remember, action speaks louder than words.  

The ball is in his corner, its his turn to step up  to the plate.

Answer 3

Stick to your guns Baby-if you don't respect yourself and demand it of others-who will?

Answer 4

Absolutely you have made the right choice.  He betrayed you and you had the big heart to try and forgive him based on one criteria which he did not live up to.  If he truly cared about saving your relationship he would do anything it took to win back your trust.  Better now than after you have his baby or something.  Don't look back...

Answer 5

You made the right choice!  He probably really does mean it when he says he loves you....but the truth is he is confused.  I really think you need to let him know you are serious this time.  If you don't, he will most likely continue this unfaithful pattern.  Breakup with him, give it time....if it is meant to be he will come back...and hopefully realize that he does need to be honest with you or he will lose you for good.  Though, after breaking up with him you will probably find someone better that is faithful...and everything and more =)  Be strong, you can do it!!  Don't let him win!

Answer 6

You gave him an ultimatum and you stuck to it. Congratulations! Don't change your mind now. If there is no trust, the relationship can never succeed. Move on.  

Answer 7

If he truly loves you he will honor your request.  Its not a simple jealousy on your part - it is the fact that he did cheat on you with her - he gave in to her manipulation - and will likely do so again.  I'm with you - stick to your guns.  He can "say" all he wants about loving you - but he needs to "show" you.