We are adoption my 2 nieces 6/8 years hepl us to do this celebration unforgatible?

Question

WE WAIT FOR 4 YEAR MY SISTER(MOM OF THE GIRLS) PAST AWAY AND FINALLY THIS ADOPTION CAME THEY RE LIVING WITH US FOR THE PAST 2 YEARS THEY ARE PART OF MY FAMILY WE RE THINKING DOING A CELEBRATION @ CHURCH AND THEN A DINNER . WE FILL THAT WE NEED TO GIVE THANKS TO ALOT OF PEOPLE THAT HELP US IN MANY WAYS TO THIS ADOPTION CAME THRUTH. WE WILL APRECIATED ALL YOU HELP

Answer 1

Let me get this straight--you want these girls' to celebrate the death of their mother?

I'm at a loss for words...

Answer 2

I am so sorry about the loss of your sister. Just have a celebration of family. And please make mention of your sister's passing and how she will be missed.....your nieces will remember one day that you took the time to honor their first mom. Have someone mingle with a video camera who could  ask the guests to mention some special things they remember about their mom and how they are happy the girls are where they should be. God Bless and best of luck :-)

Answer 3

Write a letter to each of the girls expressing your joy at welcoming them to your family. Remember tell them about their first mommy. What she was like and things she liked to do, and if possible find lots of photos of her with her girls, and of her through her life.

Make it a happy occasion. (though it is bittersweet) Buy each of your children a gift, and make the day about being a family, not just about them being adopted. This is a day for all of you to celebrate not just for the girls!

Congratulations!

Also I dont care if I get slated by the "adoptionclique" for this answer, its what I honestly think you should do.

You have to find the positive in everything in life, its a tragic thing that their first mom died, but there is nothing that will bring her back.

Celebrating the adoption of your nieces is a wonderful thing. Ignoring it might do more harm than good, and have them wondering why?

Answer 4

For once (ha and likley only once) I agree totally with Sunny.  The children are old enough and are dealing with grief of the loss of their mother a celebration does not seem warranted.  You are their aunt and it is good that you are raising them.  I would in fact ask them what they want, but I would not use the word celebration.  

Sunny has this one spot on.